I don't forget what people say for the most part on here because I just have a habit of remembering things that people say.. but to keep holding on to something waiting for the day to use it against someone is ridiculous to me.

And that's where I don't get the big deal because to me.. yeah it's just the damn internet and it's not earth shattering serious. We don't really "know" eachother (except for a few that have opted to meet offline) and nothing I say should really affect a person that damn bad considering they will probably never see me in life and if they did they'd have no clue it was me anyway. I don't agree with plenty that's said here and there are many members here that I know I wouldn't get along with in RL or even consider being friends with at all.. but on the net. It's not a big deal. I'm certainly not going to go out of my way to throw some bs in their face over some past stuff that I thought was inappropriate, offensive, or stupid unless they try to come for me all wrong. If they treat me decently after we've hashed out whatever.. okay fine. I will keep chatting with them, joking with them, etc.

I just don't hold grudges like that.. I honestly don't. In real life and on the internet once I've hashed something out with a person. Sure.. I remember stuff and act accordingly..but I'm not worried about some stuff we hashed out. If we are cool..we are cool. But I can't stand the two faced-back stabbing high school skhit that goes on in situations like this.. if you gotta damn problem just say so. And I think a lot of folks are just as sneaky and slithery as damn snakes and remember stuff JUST so they can be snarky and start shkit with no justification.

I feel more or less like if you have an issue with someone..then hash it the hell out like a grown person don't sit there acting like all is well and then bam you toss out some stupid bs grudge stuff you've been just WAITING to say as soon as you can "catch" a person. GTFOWDBS.
Originally Posted by *Marah*
idk if you're just speaking generally (i know it's not about me lol), but i haven't really seen that around here. usually when i see ppl bring up something from the past, i assume it's b/c they just happened to remember it and applied it to the current situation (like me). that's partly why i've been holding my mule so much around her; b/c sometimes i see ppl directly contradict something theyve said in the past (whether it be something they said publicly or in my inbox), and i really don't feel like being accused of being some grudgful petty chick just b/c i happen to have a good memory. so i just sit here w/ my mule and watch all the f*ckery.
Originally Posted by Keenylicious
I have seen it several times around here.. not neccessarily in this section as much in others but it's definitely a normative with a few constants here too. But of course it's about perception. People see what they want to see and judge people how they want regardless of what the real deal is...

I do understand "the hole my mule" concept..I think in a lot of cases it's the appropriate thing to do.

Frankly, I don't think there is enough open dialogue when there is an issue. Everybody wants everyone else to just STFU unless they in the Amen corner big upping what they say. I guess it's just not something I relate to very well. If I have a problem with something someone said.. I just say it and my ultimate desire is to hash it out so that we can be civil and not hostile to eachother.

But I notice it's difficult to do that here because a lot of people do hold grudges and have to throw constant snark at that person and then play dumb when confronted. Knowing damn well they are on swoll because they dropped the ball and punked out in the first place when they should have said something when the mess was going on but they stood by watched it ain't do shkit and now they mad. Then all late and wrong they wanna come balls to the wall cause they done built up some strength or decided "they just ain't holding their mule no more".. and I feel like.. no I can't get with that sort of dumb stuff. Sit your punk ass down some where..shoulda handled that shkit like grown folk long time ago.
Originally Posted by *Marah*
i dun get why you alwys talkin down to people. i think you just bitter cus people dont like you. i saw that thread where ppl were sayin how they was happy you was gone. i think thats why you mad and always mean to people
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