Usually a shampoo with a milder sulfate - Aveda Black Malva (ammonium sulfate), getting back to using Creme of Nature (coco-betaine), starting to use L'anza (tea lauryl sulfate), but sometimes I'll use an SLS one that feels moisturizing, with no problems.
I get it onto my scalp first as I oil my scalp. I use maybe two medium sized puddles for that - massage into my wet scalp, massage scalp for a few minutes, then add another puddle to my hair length and rake or comb to distribute, rinse thoroughly, condition hair and scalp right away.
I don't shampoo that often - no more than once a week, and shampoo doesn't really seem to affect my hair that much.
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