Another thought - have you tried sealing with oil? That can help with frizz.
I've been reading about that but I'm so afraid of it leaving my hair stringy and weighing it down. I'm willing to try it though, I have some jojoba oil and some sweet almond oil. I just have to take the plunge!

Have you tried mousse instead of gel? My hair has the same properties as yours and I can't use gel at all, it makes me frizzy(er) and stringy.
I haven't but that's a good idea! Now I need to research mousses. Do you have any recommendations? TIA!