I dont think its the same as getting a wax or wearing lingerie. How would you feel - using your analogy of the wax - if your guy said he didnt like your genital area au natural, and said he thought you should wax it because he didnt like it unwaxed? How would you feel if he said he did not think you were sexy unless you wore lingerie? Anyway, she did say his attitude made her feel "very, very unattractive", and that is the bottom line; she doesnt need to feel unattractive because he needs to grow up and stop being controlling. The issue here is the difference between choosing to do something that you think will please your guy, versus feeling forced or obligated to do so.