I don't think these people really mean it as an insult (at least I can't think most people consciously mean to insult someone when they say stuff like that, or I would hope not)...if you're close to the person, you could mention to them that it came off insulting rather than the compliment they most likely intended. If you aren't close with them, maybe just remind yourself how many girls on here (and people who see you who may just not say anything) would love to have your curls. There are a lot of curlies and wavies I see on the street that, although I don't say anything to them, I would kill to have their hair. I hope this helps.
2b, fine texture, normal porosity & elasticity (CG as of 12/2011)

Low-poo: UFD Rich & Funky
Cowash: VO5 Kiwi Lime
RO: Tresemme Naturals, Aubrey Organics GPB, Ion Effective Care, MillCreek Keratin
PT/DT: IAgirl's PT, GVP CB
LI: KCKT, Cure Care, CJ CCCC Lite
Styling: Curl Keeper, As I Am Jelly, UFD Curly Magic, CJ Curl Queen, TIGI Strong Hold Mousse


^^ day 1 of going CG; avatar = 6 months later