I think that you should start doing a lot of research on the naturally curly website-that's how I started. My guess is that maybe you should stay away from silicones and sulfates-your hair sounds like it needs something gentler. I would be patient and give what you try more than a few days, sometimes your hair just needs to adjust. Anyways, I highly recommend just taking some time to do some reading and get a general idea of what you need to change about your hair routine.
Organix Conditioner
Loreal leave-in conditioner
As I Am Hair Milk
As I Am Curling Jelly