Hey Risos, I can relate to what's going on with you because if I don't use a dark enough color I look blah but if the color is too dark I look like a ghost.

For temporary solutions, play around with makeup! Usually, my hair fades a bit after coloring, so yours may soften up a little. Good luck
2/c Coarse hair med. density.
Highly porous. Color over grey.
I love all the Curl Junkie products. Still experimenting with gels and curl creams. Still hoping for 2nd day hair....
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