I have seen many 4s with short and very defined twas. After I bc'ed my hair was curly but I didn't realize how curly until I learned to properly moisturize it. For me proper moisture= defined curls and to do that I have to wash my hair several times a week, dc regularly and stay away from buildup. Others may have different methods. Now that my hair is long the no moisture no definition still applies. I use gels certain times of the year but they are not necessary for me but li is.
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