Thanks everyone. i try not to use a lot of the conditioner on my scalp when i cowash but its the length of my hair
that just seems to suck it up. i put the cowash over the whole length and i have to keep on putting more on the length or it feels like there is nothing there. maybe i should just use a small amount for the scalp,rinse,then use conditioner on the length instead. i was using suave as my cowash and conditioner-in-one.

brown sugar scrub should help too.

i just didn't know why my hair would suck up so much of the suave when it didn't with other conditioners.