Your hair sounds quite like mine apart from the protein-loving bit (mine should love protein but it doesn't). I use Tresemme naturals moisturising conditioner which is plenty of moisture for me without weighing me down. I then use CJ's Beauticurls leave in and CIAB to fight the frizz (no aloe, yay!). I use mousse as I can't use gel either, have been using Joiwhip for ages but I think my hair's over it and I've just returned to using Alfaparf which I haven't been able to find for ages.
HTH a bit.
3b in South Australia.