My hair prefers the more natural products from the online, boutique type companies. I stay away from chemicals (my hair just doesn't like them.) I think that a lot of products that I use would work for you. I use minute amounts of really rich products followed by a jelly (gelatinous consistency, no chemicals.) When hair is totally dry, you can scrunch it to eliminate the "crunch" or producty look.
3a (Corkicelli), highlighted, fine, low porosity

HGs: Anything Sevi; Curly Kinks Satin Roots, Curlycue ReNew and Coil Jam; homemade FSG and okra gel; soap bars; UFD Curly Magic; Botanical Spirits Jellies, CJ Repair Me, Aloe Fix