No, apparently men and women CAN'T be just friends
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Saturday, December 8, 2012 at 07:55PM
I think findings like this are just a way to police women. What they're trying to tell us is:
-men don't really at their core value you for, or see you for, anything but your attractiveness. Your intellect, personality, character, interests, talents and experiences mean nothing. You are a sexual being.
-if men accept you as a friend without any funny business, then you aren't sexually attractive
-the women who work or socialize or cross paths with your man are threats and competition for you
It's a way to keep women from full participation in society. It puts the onus on the woman to not befriend the men at work (often the people in the more powerful positions) without assumptions being made, or to have to drop their male friends as soon as they're in a relationship with a woman or else be seen as a home-wrecker.
And of course not all men are attracted to women.
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