Hi everyone, I'm so excited to have found this site!
I have a tonne of questions, but first a little background:

I have a 2 year old daughter who has 3a (I think) curls that, when dry are to the nape of her neck. When wet, they're half way down her back.
To be honest, I'm really not sure if her hair is dry but it's not too frizzy or fly away, nor is it greasy and thick. We've also never really had an issue with tangles. So it's kind of in between, I guess.

Currently, I'm just washing it with baby shampoo, and then combing through a Dove leave in conditioner. If I do this in the morning, the curls are really defined and will stay that way until she goes to sleep, plays, or wears a hat. Once that happens, all definition is gone and it gets really messy with some straight pieces sticking out.

She's also terrified of the blowdryer so the diffuser isn't really an option.

My questions are:

How do I tell if her hair is dry and if moisture is the problem?

How do I keep her curls defined throughout the day? This a really big one as we are Canadian and can't really leave the house without a hat for the next 4 months.

Thanks in advance!