Your right, my hair is brushed out in the first photos I posted. If I don't brush it out, you can see the curls and it is less frizzy and puffy but after brushing it out, the curls are looser but it is huge and puffty.
why would you brush out your hair? of course it will poof and frizz if its brushed out dry. I still wouldnt recommend a relaxer. A lot of us have 'been there, done that' and have not had great experiences.

this is my hair if brushed out before/after:

judging from the last couple of pictures you posted, I think your hair looks very pretty! You have some amazing curl/wave potential, thats for sure!
- 2C - Coarse Canopy & med/fine underlayers
- MOP C Hydrating 'poo
- LOreal Natures Therapy Moisturizing condish, ION Effective Care, Garnier S&S (old formula)
- treatments: CJ Curl Rehab, CJ Repair Me!
- plopping, diffusing, and clipping the roots