I have been having the same "messy" hair issues on Day 2 but I have to say, I tried cones and like peeps have been saying - it does make a difference. I used CJ Coffee Coco Curl Creme, which has the washable cones. And I kept my clumps into Day 2 and 3. If I use the "really" all natural products, my clumps break up pretty easily.

I only had a sample size of the CJ Creme so I am back to messy Day 2 hair. I am debating whether I buy more of that or try a drug store cone item.
High Density, High Porosity, Medium Texture, 3B with some kink

Lo-Poo: No Preference
Co-wash: CJ Smoothing Conditioner
RO: CJ Strengthening Conditioner - HG
LI: CK Satin Roots
Styler: CK Coil Jam
Other Likes: Castor Oil; CK Twist Whip, MD CSC
Dislikes: Wheat Protein; Aloe LIs or Stylers