i just noticed that you use kckt as your leave in. years ago when i tried it i found it very drying, absolutely not moisturizing enough. if you are having problems with your hair, i suggest you try a different leave in, something more moisturizing. see if that helps. and i'd still do some sealing, especially on those straw-like hairs.
hang in there, you'll figure it out. the thing with gray hair is it is different and we have to change what we do to our hair. well, i suppose some will say they haven't changed a thing, so not all will need to change, but a lot of us will.
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3a, some 2c & 3b, medium texture, porosity normal, low elasticity
washing/cowashing, conditioning, protein tx: [I] curl junkie products
leave in:cj conditioners and treatments as leave in
styling: cj aloe fix gel, cj pattern pusha, cj honey butta leave in, cj cccc, cj ciab.
sealants - jane carter nourish & shine