When you first start, it's hard not to be obsessed. It does get better as you begin to know what your hair likes. Best place to start is to look for folks with similar properties and see what they use and do.
3a (Corkicelli), highlighted, fine, low porosity

HGs: Anything Sevi; Curly Kinks Satin Roots, Curlycue ReNew and Coil Jam; homemade FSG and okra gel; soap bars; UFD Curly Magic; Botanical Spirits Jellies, CJ Repair Me, Aloe Fix