The best way to choose ingredients/products is by hair properties. Here's a link to help you with yours Live Curly Live Free - Home Once you determine your properties, you can look for people with hair like yours and see what they use (in signature.) It's the best place to start.

If your best days are after you DT, it means your hair needs more moisture. Try to up your moisture--do more frequent DTs, use more moisturizing products, etc.
3a (Corkicelli), highlighted, fine, low porosity

HGs: Anything Sevi; Curly Kinks Satin Roots, Curlycue ReNew and Coil Jam; homemade FSG and okra gel; soap bars; UFD Curly Magic; Botanical Spirits Jellies, CJ Repair Me, Aloe Fix