yup I learnt it the hard way though, another reason why I say stick to one product at a time. try just a leave-in +(gel or mousse). make sure you give ur hair sometime between products. else its just going to sit on top of your hair - reason for buildsups

Do let us know ur next experiment- would love to hear from you, since we have same hair properties, I can learn from you
3a with some 2a-2c, Medium/Low Porosity
Co-wash:deva no-poo/Vo5 kiwi
Leave-in:Shea Moisture/GVP conditioning Balm/AOHSR

Since long hair- I finger twist in big chunks, which helps till 5th day hair
Gel:LA sports
Plop: Old T-shirt for 15 minutes ,diffuse