try combing your hair in the shower. or just after. make sure you have a good slip conditioner and give it a few minutes to start to work. this should help with your hair being so big.
what is your routine?

my hair: 3b, high porosity, high density and coarse hair (i think i finally figured that all out)
my hair loves conditioner only styling!
Oils and my own procuts are my hairs best friend
my hair goal length is bra strap length when curly.