Oh no, I'm sorry to hear that. I have had some gel disasters too. It can be great for defining/hold, but sometimes it turns really dry or gets too sticky after a few hours. Don't know about the frizz though. It might be worth trying different ones/routines at some point but if the Coconut oil is working that seems good! Your curls seem to hold well as they retain curl even though your hair is so long.
UK based wavy

Mostly waves, but curls and straight bits too!
Fine to medium, high porosity, medium density, very low elasticity
Highlights damage (growing it out), seems to like protein and need lots of moisture.

Cleanse - CJDF, trying out low poos ; Co wash- Uk chemist brands, Urtekram Rose or Aloe, Hairveda Amala Cream Rinse; RO - varies, Tigi Moisture Maniac, Desert Essence Coconut ; Leave in - Keracare natural textures; Sealant - argan oil
Trying out new things, still looking.