your hair may be reacting to something in it. If it is then stop leaving it in and try something else. I felt that way about the nourishing moisture one and read an article on that said there is an ingredient that some have issues with it irritating their scalp. I use the tn nm as a detangler/to and use the radiant volume to li (doesn't have that ingredient-can't remember what it is, sorry). People seem to like sm curl and style milk and say that's a good leave in or Cantu Shea butter leave in. If u really like tn (like I do ) then try just using it to detangle or mix it with other stuff for a deep conditioner but rinse it out completely. Not everyone can leave in all conditioners. Hth! Good luck finding something else!