I was going to say that I thought your hair might be overconditioned--soft, dry looking hair as opposed to protein overload which is strawlike, dry looking hair.

How does your hair respond to straight oil?? My low porosity hair doesn't care for straight oil/butter, but does like it in well formulated products. I'm not sure that you could consider okra gel a well formulated product. Once, I tried to put a little oil (other then Vit E) in either FSG or okra gel and my hair hated it. I found that adding a small amount of Surgragel AOF (sweet almond oil, glycerin and sucrose) to either one makes it great. I do 1 t to a cup of gel, so it really is a small amount of the oil.
3a (Corkicelli), highlighted, fine, low porosity

HGs: Anything Sevi; Curly Kinks Satin Roots, Curlycue ReNew and Coil Jam; homemade FSG and okra gel; soap bars; UFD Curly Magic; Botanical Spirits Jellies, CJ Repair Me, Aloe Fix