I'm so jealous of every girl that posts a youtube video or her hair regimen and when they step out of the shower they have amazing curl definition from the top of the scalp all the way down. I don't know if my hair is just too dense or what, but that does not happen to me. I can get good curl definition at the bottom of my curls, but the top (closest to my scalp) is just a frizzy mess that has no individualized curls.

but when I got my hair cut, my hairdresser was able to make it have the individual curls that I've been looking for, but I have no idea how she did it!

Has anyone had this problem before? How do i get my curls to be more individualized and less just a frizzy mess near my head, any and all suggestions are welcome! I'm so desperate and about to give up
Attached Thumbnails
desperate! frizziness just at top of head! please help!-img_3347.jpg   desperate! frizziness just at top of head! please help!-img_3386.jpg