Don't get me wrong I am by no way a push over or weak by anyone's stretch of the imagination. I have my convictions and I stand by them. When I said that her opinion didn't matter I meant that it doesn't move me or in any way sway me from my decision about my girls hair. I know what is best for them. Yes, I did perm their hair, but when I learned better I did better. I am teaching my girls to love themselves for who God created them to be..., every part of them. My mom doesn't get it yet, hopefully she will or atleast respect my decision. We are from the Deep South and there are VERY few naturals around here and even fewer biracial couples. I have dealt with racism from both sides. I never figured that hair would be such a huge issue and was surprised when it became one.