I revised this to make it the most basic recipe for this post.
I used frozen okra, whole or sliced (I've now done both).
I added 1 1/2 Cups okra to a pot of 2 1/2 cups distilled water. Cooked on med-low for 15 mins. Raised heat to medium and cooked another 15 minutes- it was at a low boil this last 15. Raised heat to med-high and let boil hard for 5 more. Total cooking time 35 minutes, stirring occasionally. ShellyRN low boils for 30.
I strained the liquid with a mesh strainer and added 1/2 t of xanthan gum (thickener required!)to thicken, and mixed with an immersion blender. If you want it thicker, add more slowly. I like mine more runny.
This yielded about 1 1/2-2 cups
I let it cool a few minutes, then whisked in these add-ins;
3/4 t agave nectar (for hold- available @ grocery store, in the sugar aisle)
1/2 t grape seed oil (any oil except coconut will work)
10 drops fragrance oil (you can use any fragrance or essential oil for scent)
**ADD PRESERVATIVE (IF DESIRED)- if you do not use preservative, keep a small portion refrigerated for immediate use, and freeze the rest.