Ok, I need some advice on products I can use (oils, etc), when taking out my braids for a braid out. I've tried doing braid outs in the past, but stopped because I was noticing a lot of mid strand splits. The process of taking down the braids was too harsh on my hair. I've had better luck with twist outs, but I don't get the same definition when I do big twists (frizz city).

My hair is 4b. It's growing, but as it gets longer I've been trying to simplify my life by doing my hair in bigger sections, so that my hair takes less time. Sorry for the novel, but any advice I can get on taking down my braids without damaging my hair & keeping the definition, would be appreciated. Heck, I'd even take advice on how to remove big twists & still have definition.