You can tell me what the UK is like but my experience is the US is that it is not so much about relaxed hair as it is "good hair" ie not 4 hair. being a woman with long flowy natural hair is treated in the black community like winning the lottery. I have many cousins with loose hair and no one ever tells them they need a relaxer My avatar is my great grandmother who died before I was born but to this day my family brags about her long curly hair that all she needed was to wet it and put grease in it. They love to tell how Her father had straight hair and her mother wavy.
Originally Posted by adthomas
Black people in the UK come from a variety of different ethnic groups, so depending on where you were born, grew up and often age natural hair is viewed differently. So attitudes vary a lot.

Incidentally if you have a hair curl pattern, thickest etc that doesn't stereotypically fit your ethnic background you can get a lot of hassle.