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I wet, use a rinse out and style every day. I'm older, so don't have an oily scalp. I've used natural soap bars to cleanse since they were really popular on around five years ago. They've since fallen out of favor. My hair has always satiated on product--even back in my shampoo/conditioner only days. I rotate products. Seldom using any one product more then once every five days, if that.
3a (Corkicelli), highlighted, fine, low porosity

HGs: Anything Sevi; Curly Kinks Satin Roots, Curlycue ReNew and Coil Jam; homemade FSG and okra gel; soap bars; UFD Curly Magic; Botanical Spirits Jellies, CJ Repair Me, Aloe Fix