Regardless of what I do in my home, though, I think that every parent has the right to make the decision for themselves as to whether to spank, and for what reasons. Abuse should not be tolerated, though.
Originally Posted by dia99
But spanking IS abuse.

People who spank seem always to be people who were spanked/abused as children. I think we owe it to our children to stop the cycle. There are far better ways to achieve the same goals in raising our children.

I agree totally and empathize with what medussa wrote:
It teaches your child that you can overpower them just because you're bigger. Plus, it sends a mixed message. How can a parent teach a child not to solve problems by hitting, when the parent is hitting them? This is my fundamental problem with spanking. But it is very difficult to unlearn what I learned growing up. I have to work very hard at it.
Originally Posted by medussa