I, too, was going to suggest that porosity influences whether of not you can use straight oil/butter on your hair. My hair is fine/low porosity. It just doesn't absorb straight oil/butter. I can use it in well formulated products--as long as it's not a lot.

Do you know your porosity?? That will really help you determine what products to try/use. My hair really loves protein. I often use it to "counterbalance" richer products.
3a (Corkicelli), highlighted, fine, low porosity

HGs: Anything Sevi; Curly Kinks Satin Roots, Curlycue ReNew and Coil Jam; homemade FSG and okra gel; soap bars; UFD Curly Magic; Botanical Spirits Jellies, CJ Repair Me, Aloe Fix