Sounds like you have significant heat damage and breakage. Sadly there is no way back from that except to cut it off and start over. Then with your new shorter hair you have the choice to embrace your curls with the Curly Girl method (they really do not have to be 'hard to handle', you just need to stop treating them like straight hair). OR to return to flat ironing your hair BUT way more gently.

Turn the heat down on your flat iron, do not iron daily, don't do too many passes, ALWAYS iron on bone dry hair (ideally air dried the night before), use scientifically proven heat protectant ingredients not just silicones.
THE NATURAL HAVEN: Straightening Facts :How hot is too hot?
THE NATURAL HAVEN: Heat on Wet Hair = Bubble Hair
How to protect your hair from heat damage
Brightest Bulb In the Box: Beauty for Critical Minds: The Science of Hairstyling Heat Protection Products
Science-y Hair Blog: Product List By Category

Learn no heat methods of stretching out or loosening your curls such as wet wrapping and sock bun waves from YouTube. Patch repair minor damage with proven ingredients like coconut oil, hydrolysed protein, ceramide, 18-MEA and panthenol.
List of Products Containing Ceramides and/or 18-MEA
2a-2c, medium texture, porous/ colour treated. Three years CG. Past bra strap length heading for waist.

CO-wash: Inecto coconut/ Elvive Volume Collagen
Treatments: Komaza Care Matani, coconut/ sweet almond/ fractionated coconut oils, Hairveda Sitrinillah
Leave in: Fructis Sleek & Shine (old), Gliss Ultimate Volume, various Elvive
Styler: Umberto Giannini jelly, Au Naturale styling gelee
Flour sack towel, pixie diffuse or air dry.
Experimenting with: benign neglect

Last edited by Firefox7275; 08-07-2014 at 03:50 PM.