It really depends. I can't even begin to fabricate what it would be like to be in an abusive situation, so I can't comment on that.

A lot of people don't understand what it's like to have bad relationship with a family member. Until you are in the situation of saying, "I didn't pick to be related to you and I don't HAVE to love you," a lot of people (understandably so) just don't get that.