5 Things a Stylist Should NEVER Say to a Curly Client

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We're doing an article on some of the things a stylist should never say to a curly client. We'd love to hear your ideas.

During the last haircut I ever got, after informing the stylist that I didn't intend to have my hair straightened after the cut she replied in a slow drawn out way, "so, you just want me to leave it, like that." Yeah, probably not the best thing she could have said to me.

Along those same lines I would add "what do you want me to do with it?" and "your hair would look so lovely straight."
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After having been told that I'm CG
(stylist picks up various bottles and looks at ingredients)
"Um...so what all is considered 'silicone'"

Similarly to the poster above me...after being cut but before blowdried
(stylist looks confusedly at the blowdryer and toys with several types of diffusers)
"Ok so I'm not really sure what we do here..."

After describing how I'm choosing not to alter the chemical or physical properties of my hair whatsoever:
"You really should consider a keratin treatment, its what your hair is made up of and will help you cut down on the frizz"...................

I could go on forever.

I remember once, a while ago, before I stopped getting my hair straightened, telling the stylist that I wanted my layers cut in such a way that if I decided to wear my hair natural, I wouldnt have crazy short layers. She replied that, with my hair type (4a) I couldn't wear it out and curly or it would get matted. The only way to wear it is either straight or braided #majorshade
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I had decided to transition and was about 4 months in and went to my regular hair dresser for a cut and blow dry. While doing my hair with no prompting the hair dresser said if I had a texuriser my hair would easier to manage.
I didn't go back because I wanted to come to my own conclusions and ended up cutting and doing my own hair for a while before I found my current stylist.
I have had several barbers and stylists ask me if I have had my hair permed. If they can't tell the difference between naturally curly and permed hair, then they're not much of a stylist.

I also went to a stylist and asked about getting my hair colored. She said she had a kit with an ideal color for me. Kits are for people who color their hair themselves at home. Any stylist worth a damn knows how to mix her own colors.
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"I've had enough. This is my prayer. That I'll die living just as free as my hair."
"I can't cut your hair dry, it would dull my scissors"

Yes, this was ACTUALLY said to me when I was a teen, smh. If any variation of that is said to you, RUN!
I was having my hair (temporarily) straightened back when I was a teenager by our family hair beautician, just a temporary straighten and she said to me after she was done straightening my hair, "Straighten your hair more often, like once a week in order to train your hair to be straight so it won't take so much time to get it pin straight." Needless to say, I never said I wanted straight hair, I was perfectly content with my locks, just wanted a change for a few days and then to go back to its natural curly state.

Also, when I was younger, I went to get my hair trimmed and figured I didn't need any kind of hair specialist to do it. Before I got my hair trimmed, she said "I haven't worked with curly hair/ethnic hair much before." I was horrified, but let her go through wit it anyway, mostly because I was young and naive and too afraid to speak up. It actually turned out good, but those WORDS terrified me.
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ANYTHING about straightening or trying their new system to relax your hair... >> I have known women who come up to me like "Oh, our salon just opened and our straightening services are half price" That is an immediate turn off, you can expect that I will definitely not be coming to your salon in the future...or ever.
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I'm a little late here, but...

"You should get your hair relaxed." Oh, and they sometimes have the nerve to lie and tell you that it's "good" for your hair.

"How about you straighten a section first so I'll know how it's done." Laawwd!

I went to an Asian salon once (big mistake on my part) and judging by the cackling and whispers in their language, they've never seen or dealt with biracial/black/curly hair in their lives. I thought it was very rude of them to make fun of me like that. I didn't understand what they were saying but it was clear that they were talking about me. They even made faces when they were detangling my hair. It was extremely humiliating...
I've gotten "You'd be a good candidate for a Brazilian blowout."
I am a stylist myself, I'm dominican but i don't do blowouts I focus on the natural styles and my fellow stylist always tell me
"aren't you going to get your hair done?"

what do you mean i just spent like 45 mins on my hair??
"you work in a dominican salon, you need to straighten your hair, your a bad example to the clients"

i feel more so like an inspiration that i dont let them pressure me into just straightening my hair
I have not been to a hairstylist since I went natural in 2005. All the rude comments that they make about my hair, sitting me under the dryer for hours on end, waiting or more hours, all the gossip that stylists do, and the stripping shampoos/conditioners that they use. I felt like spending all this money to be treated like this was just wrong!

What would be really nice to hear from a stylist is a good compliment about my hair. After spending hard earned money on natural products, long finger detanglng sessions, and healthy ends it would be nice to be complimented on this. To this day I have never received not even one nice compliment about my hair.
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After having been told that I'm CG
(stylist picks up various bottles and looks at ingredients)
"Um...so what all is considered 'silicone'"
Originally Posted by Alliekins
You're kidding, right? []__[]

I know this is an old post but I've got one. I worked across the way from a salon for about nine months. If I looked out the drive thru window I'd be able to see it (for awhile, while working drive thru, I watched the sushi place next to it being built). So I went over.to the salon one day and told them that I'm growing my hair out and am due for a trim, and that I'm not straightening anymore. She points out a stylist who is good with curly hair. I can't remember what I said next but she suggested to me that she could straighten my hair before.trimming it. I gave her a horrified look, and decided never to come back. On the upside, I live within walking distance of a salon, and the stylist at a beauty school worked wonders with my hair. I can't wait to go back to her.
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If they don't know how to cut it DON'T PRETEND THAT YOU DO!! We all know how hurt we've been my this!!
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If they don't know how to cut it DON'T PRETEND THAT YOU DO!! We all know how hurt we've been my this!!
Originally Posted by curlylifestyle
I agree! I use to go to the salon with my hair straight because I wanted a dry cut knowing most people don't know how to cut hair when it's curly. I warned the hair dresser, what did she do? Sprayed my hair down with a water bottle knotting it all up. -___-
stylist: do you use oils in your hair?
me: yes I do, argan oil for example
stylist: oh, shall I put some argan oil in your hair?
me: Is it pure oil? No silicones?
stylist: nooo, pure oil, it's really good and also quite expensive
me: *looks on the label of the 'expensive pure argan oil'... And finds out that first 3 ingriediŽnts are silicones*

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