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vivasmom 07-03-2005 12:27 PM

Hey Folks, I need help for my kid's hair
Hi Everyone-

I have been trying to post an avatar, but am lame and can't seem to figure it out. I wanted you to be able to see my almost 3 yr old daughter's 3c hair.

She's a cutie, but the hair is killing me right now. I'm white, she's mixed (her daddy is black). She has beautiful blonde curls, currently in cornrows. Because her hair is quite soft and she won't sleep with her hair covered, they got fuzzy really fast. I won't be able to leave them in for more than a week or so. She usually has her hair in puffs or down.

She LOVES her braids and gets mad if you even try to touch them. I've read CG and have used some of the tips in there. I don't shampoo her hair more than once in a blue moon. I clean her scalp with conditioner.

I have the usual issues. "Black" hair care products leave her hair greasy and yucky and "white" products are not moisturizing enough.

I went to Sally's to try to find some new product, but everything that the lady recommended had mineral oil, which I think is a no no, right?

Things I've tried:

Paul Mitchell detangler- doesn't make her hair slippery enough for pain free combing

Nexxuss Humectress- Don't like the coated feeling it leaves on her hair

WEN leave-in- not hydrating enough

Elasta QP?-something or other. Made her hair very hard to comb

Abba-Nourishing. This has been pretty good. It's what I use most often, but she needs something a little more hydrating.

Pantene relaxed and natural- Daily oil cream moisturizer. Makes her hair hard to comb. Has mineral oil.

Motions hair and scalp- yuck

Pantene regular conditioner- works pretty well as a leave in, but the lady at Sally's said it was terrible for the hair, very drying.

The entire CurlyQ's line- Seemed drying.

Aveda condish- one of them, can't remember which, but didn't like it

Are you feeling my pain?

As her hair gets longer and longer I really need to find the right product for her so her hair stays beautiful and healthy. I've read lots of the message boards so I'm pretty up to speed on the basics.

Current routine:
In AM. wet the hair, work ABBA in, and comb through. Put in puffs for school or leave down. I ask her "do you want small hair (puffs) or big hair (down)" and do whichever she wants.

In PM. She takes a bath and likes to get her hair wet. After bath, squeeze water and work pantene regular condish through. Off to bed either in 2 braids or hair down. Hair down means longer combing in AM. She won't cover her hair at night. (She's only 2, what can I expect)

Don't even try to comb the hair dry. Your're picking a fight with that and creating some very unbecoming hair.

Enrica- you said you have a toddler. Any tips?

Thanks folks. I look forward to hearing from you.!!!!!!!!!

subbrock 07-04-2005 06:57 PM

elucence moisture balancing conditioner is a really good moisturizeing conditioner!!!

Enrica 07-04-2005 11:22 PM

Sorry, I never saw your post. :( I've been mostly away from the computer last few days...

Please feel free to jump in and post questions over on the Young Curly's Help Thread. I see you have a couple different threads going already & I'm not exactly sure what questions you may still have. I can try to help, but a lot of its still going to be trial and error until you figure out exactly what your daughter's hair responds to.

subbrock 07-05-2005 06:14 PM

is that her in your avatar? if so her hair looks so cute

vivasmom 07-05-2005 06:51 PM

yep, that's her on a VERY scary hair morning. The avatar I wanted to post that shows her hair looking really nice, it's too far away to really see it. It's just kind of hard to see it. I'll try to figure out how to post pictures on the web. Her hair is very beautiful 3c.

eccentric_kurlz 07-05-2005 07:27 PM

She is a cutie pie, with gorgeous curls. :)

popculturecouture 07-06-2005 02:24 AM

sounds like you've used or been using too many products for someone who is only 36 months! I think you shoudl simplify her routine to clarifyer (shampoo or whatever), conditioner, and 2 products - that's it!

vivasmom 07-06-2005 12:24 PM

Oh, I never have more than 2 products going at once. I just have been trying different products. That list is over the course of two years.

I just wet the hair in AM and work in some sort of condish.
In PM, I give her a bath, and she gets her hair wet and we add more condish.
Condition wash whenever she starts to get a teensy bit stinky on her head.

violets 07-06-2005 01:07 PM

My latest experiment is
co wash with Elucence 1x a week
Elucence + a few drops of EVOO.

You need to try different things to moisturize:
Cut out shampoo
Try AV I used LOTD or FOTE. I liked LOTD better.
Shea butter
coconut oil

Copper Metis 07-06-2005 04:29 PM

Hey Folks, I need help with my kid's hair
I know, I know, I know. That very, very in-between somewhere hair. I am tri-racial and my husband is biracial. My daughter has this sort of hair (or should I say 'had' it--please read my review of a butcher shop gone salon in general section). It is the same exact problem we had--too oily/greasy and not enough moisture. Everyone has a different opinion of what needs to be done with it: oil it, straighten it, braid it, relax it...very frustrating!!

I read a lot of product reviews and I found that Qhemet Biologics was the most perfect thing. I tried Curly Q's, Motions, Redken, Matrix, Nexxus, Pantene, magic bullet, I mean curls. You know how when you try a product, you believe the ad, cross your fingers, hoping it will do exactly as it says but you also steel yourself for disappointment? There ought to be a name for that particular emotion associated with the let-down/disappointment with a product. Anyway, I steeled myself with it when I tried Qhemet. Softens and instantly detangles...yeah, yeah, yeah. POW!!! It worked and worked wonders!!! No problem pulling the comb through what-so-ever. Her hair isn't kinky at all but it tends to snarl and mat like you wouldn't believe. No problem at all the with the Olive Conditioner. Not only that--you know about 'dry draw-up'? Not with this stuff. Her curls used to go down to her waist when pulled and this stuff kept it down on her shoulder blades when dry--never happened with anyone else's stuff. I cannot recommend this stuff enough!! It needs to have a throne set aside in every CGs hair court. Tried it on my red, bushy head and absolutely loved it!!!! The Olive and Honey and the Hair Tea is wonderful to moisturize. Very good on the hair while it is still damp, put it in twists, and then unfurl in the morning!

I formulate soaps, creams, and other toiletries, so I know for a fact that the ingredients are good and well thought out. Just be really super careful not to get the least little amount in your eye--it will burn like acid and unfortunately, it is difficult to rinse out. If you do get it in your eye, making a dilution of J&J Baby shampoo and A LOT distilled water helps to get it out. The potential irritation is NOT due to poor formulation, however (lemon juice to brighten the hair will burn like the dickens and it's all natural)!! Some substances are irritating the eye no matter what.

Go ahead, order a sample!!! Let us know how it works out. BTW, your daughter is a doll baby!

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