In between Hair= Hair Purgatory

Is it normal to be this flaky with my hair? The reason I bring this up is because I made a major hair mistake this week that I fully recovered from... Thank God, and I started to question why I did it in the first place. I realized the reason I did it in the first place was because I am getting bored with my TWA. Now that it's really starting to grow out ( The nape is 1/2 an inch stretched from SL, my sides are a little longer than ear length stretched, the Front is 1/2 an inch away from my eyebrows), I find myself getting restless.

I have grown tired of the same ole wash n go that I stretch out for 5 days in a row and then redo. I think that was why I got braids and then followed it up with the protein mess from hell. I initially was happy for like a day that i could finally wear a headband and push it back after I took my braids out, but that didn't last too long. Even today I was rocking an awesome TWA after doing Teri's method and I got bored with it by dinner time! I decided to do twists in my hair which was a pretty difficult when your hair is short. I had to do them pretty small so they didn't look a mess. Now that they are in I can't help but feel disappointed with the way they look because they aren't longer. I wish there was a magical potion that made hair grow overnight. I feel like when I first BC'd my hair was cuter and easier to deal with, now that's it's starting to grow out a little this In between stage is driving me crazy. Part of me wishes I transitioned longer, but I know that wasn't possible since my hair was breaking like crazy even though I was moisturizing all the time. It was looking a hot uneven mess. Le Sigh... Do any of you other TWA's who are in-between feel this way? Or have other women who are now medium to long haired felt like this in the beginning? I need a hair pick me up bad. I'm starting to have urges to cut it again.
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Last edited by 4aspiral; 05-23-2009 at 10:20 PM.
Would you be scared to get it cut in a style?

Or maybe try a color? It doesn't have to be a permanent color?

Or maybe try hair accessories?


My hair is not twa, but I can relate to the boredom.
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4aspiral, I think we BC'd around the same time and I feel you on the in between state. The front of my hair stretched is slightly past my eyebrows but my back which started out shorter than the front needs a bit more length before I can do something else besides TWA.

I've been buying lots of accessories to kind of spice things up but like you I'm still bored and ready to do something else besides TWA. I just try to keep telling myself don't do anything drastic and by the end of June, I should be long enough to start doing some twists and have them look nice.

If I didn't have to throw everything including the kitchen sink at my hair to get it to take color, I wold probably definitely go for some color about now.
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Last edited by QVCDiva; 05-24-2009 at 02:53 AM.
Is it normal to be this flaky with my hair? The reason I bring this up is because I made a major hair mistake this week that I fully recovered from... Thank God, and I started to question why I did it in the first place. I realized the reason I did it in the first place was because I am getting bored with my TWA. Now that it's really starting to grow out ( The nape is 1/2 an inch stretched from SL, my sides are a little longer than ear length stretched, the Front is 1/2 an inch away from my eyebrows), I find myself getting restless.

I have grown tired of the same ole wash n go that I stretch out for 5 days in a row and then redo. I think that was why I got braids and then followed it up with the protein mess from hell. I initially was happy for like a day that i could finally wear a headband and push it back after I took my braids out, but that didn't last too long. Even today I was rocking an awesome TWA after doing Teri's method and I got bored with it by dinner time! I decided to do twists in my hair which was a pretty difficult when your hair is short. I had to do them pretty small so they didn't look a mess. Now that they are in I can't help but feel disappointed with the way they look because they aren't longer. I wish there was a magical potion that made hair grow overnight. I feel like when I first BC'd my hair was cuter and easier to deal with, now that's it's starting to grow out a little this In between stage is driving me crazy. Part of me wishes I transitioned longer, but I know that wasn't possible since my hair was breaking like crazy even though I was moisturizing all the time. It was looking a hot uneven mess. Le Sigh... Do any of you other TWA's who are in-between feel this way? Or have other women who are now medium to long haired felt like this in the beginning? I need a hair pick me up bad. I'm starting to have urges to cut it again.
Originally Posted by 4aspiral
I think you need to remember why you bc'd. Was it your goal to have a TWA permanently/SL/NL or beyond?

At the many bolded, I am in that awkward stage and felt the same way as you when I kept trying to leave my hair out and treat it as I did when I first BC'd

It had grown which is what I wanted so I had to adjust to this sneaky growth and try twists

At first I thought they looked a mess or were just too short but then I realised not only were they protecting my hair but once I gave them enough of a chance, they made my hair easier to deal with. I have less time for hair than I used to

They took care of my awkward lengths which really show when my hair is loose but don't when I wear twists. I'm hoping to get past SL and then trim evenly to SL.

I say give twists another chance and really wear them for a week and see if you can stand them. If you still hate the look then maybe you need to get a shape up or cut your hair to a desirable length

I just went through the stage you are at and twists and accessories topped off with some new make up/clothes was the best cure for awkward stage ennui
I remember that stage well.. and its almost like the stage I'm at now... There are soo many in-between and awkward stages that I just honestly gave up and went shopping...

I 2nd the idea that new clothes and makeup help...

Also using scarves as headbands, help accessorize, and color and give it more of a fashion forward look. Try Big earrings and chunky jewelery because then attention will be taken off your hair... And even though it might look the same, your overall look doesn't.
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Yea I kept the twists in this time so far. Last time I took them out right away, this time I'm going to try to keep them in for a week. I'll prob wear a lot of hats though because I still feel like they look weird so short. Smartkitty you are right about me trying to take care of my hair the same way I did previously, but now that it's growing out it's not working as well. Thanks for the replies. I think I"m going to delve into more hair accessories to try to make myself feel better about my hair. I already have tons of hot earrings that I bought when I first bc'd. I'll give hair accessories a try too.
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Currently trying to formulate the perfect styling pudding. Once that happens all other things left over will be thrown out, given away. From then on I'm only buying to RESTOCK.
Ultimate hair goal: soft, healthy APL unstretched
"Don't remove the kinks from your hair, remove them from your brain." -Marcus Garvey
This is going to sound odd...but what if accessories do not help? Headbands are too tight for my head, scarves don't look good, barrettes are either too tight or too big. My hair isn't quite long enough to pull into a bun. Twist are a no go as are braids and other protective styles.

I am also tired of this in between stage and have been living it for 3 years...also tired of my frizzy ends, but if I were to cut off all of the bad haircut, then I won't be able to pull it into a bun. It is a vicious cycle.
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This is going to sound odd...but what if accessories do not help? Headbands are too tight for my head, scarves don't look good, barrettes are either too tight or too big. My hair isn't quite long enough to pull into a bun. Twist are a no go as are braids and other protective styles.

I am also tired of this in between stage and have been living it for 3 years...also tired of my frizzy ends, but if I were to cut off all of the bad haircut, then I won't be able to pull it into a bun. It is a vicious cycle.
Originally Posted by Windflower
How come it lasted that long for you? Is there a reason? Reading 3 years frightened me.
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Currently trying to formulate the perfect styling pudding. Once that happens all other things left over will be thrown out, given away. From then on I'm only buying to RESTOCK.
Ultimate hair goal: soft, healthy APL unstretched
"Don't remove the kinks from your hair, remove them from your brain." -Marcus Garvey
This is going to sound odd...but what if accessories do not help? Headbands are too tight for my head, scarves don't look good, barrettes are either too tight or too big. My hair isn't quite long enough to pull into a bun. Twist are a no go as are braids and other protective styles.

I am also tired of this in between stage and have been living it for 3 years...also tired of my frizzy ends, but if I were to cut off all of the bad haircut, then I won't be able to pull it into a bun. It is a vicious cycle.
Originally Posted by Windflower
How come it lasted that long for you? Is there a reason? Reading 3 years frightened me.
Originally Posted by 4aspiral
The woman really messed up my hair. She cut deeply into the hair shaft...think of a rope. then imagine cutting off the end and slicing into length of the rope. the end of the rope starts to unravel and looks really frizzy, yet if you keep cutting off the end, it keeps frizzing because the cut was made so high on the length of the rope... this is what happened to my hair.

So even though it is growing, i still have a lot of frizzy ends because as it grows, the new growth is at the scalp, but the length of the curl is still frizzy...it looks a lot better now than it did, but to me it is bad...and it seems that this time around, my hair is not as thick.

i tried to get two stylists to basically buzz cut my hair after the disaster cut, but both (male) said no, that i would regret it. i should have found someone else because by now, i would have a head full of undamaged hair. oh well, live and learn.
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Girl, I SO feel you! I cut my dreadlocks in February and I'm so bored with my hair I don't know what to do. Cutting it is just not an option for me cause my whole point is I want it to get longer so if I cut it, I'm in for an even LONGER wait. And even though I see hair accessories on other twa's and I think it's cute, I don't think they're cute on me cause I feel like I just don't have enough hair to be wearing a flower on the side. Dang flower looks bigger than my hair. And when I put a headband on it's like what am I trying to hold back? I don't have enough hair to hold back?! I think the problem is I used these accessories when I had a lot of hair so now that I don't, it looks odd to me.

Only advice I can give is hang in there!! Even though my hair isn't down my back yet, I can see that it has grown quite a bit since February. At this rate, I will be fine. One thing that's helped me is taking pictures. It will seem like my hair isn't growing, but when I compare my picture from February and a couple of weeks ago, I can see that it's grown a lot and that helps keep me focused. Just focus on keeping you hair healthy and think of it as a process that just takes patience. Soon we will have our BAA's and rock them like no one's bidness!!!
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Girl, I SO feel you! I cut my dreadlocks in February and I'm so bored with my hair I don't know what to do. Cutting it is just not an option for me cause my whole point is I want it to get longer so if I cut it, I'm in for an even LONGER wait. And even though I see hair accessories on other twa's and I think it's cute, I don't think they're cute on me cause I feel like I just don't have enough hair to be wearing a flower on the side. Dang flower looks bigger than my hair. And when I put a headband on it's like what am I trying to hold back? I don't have enough hair to hold back?! I think the problem is I used these accessories when I had a lot of hair so now that I don't, it looks odd to me.

Only advice I can give is hang in there!! Even though my hair isn't down my back yet, I can see that it has grown quite a bit since February. At this rate, I will be fine. One thing that's helped me is taking pictures. It will seem like my hair isn't growing, but when I compare my picture from February and a couple of weeks ago, I can see that it's grown a lot and that helps keep me focused. Just focus on keeping you hair healthy and think of it as a process that just takes patience. Soon we will have our BAA's and rock them like no one's bidness!!!
Originally Posted by NubianCoils
Yea that's exactly what's keeping me away from the scissors knowing it will just take longer for it to grow out. Patience is what I need a lot of patience. Flower in my hair would overpower my hair too unless it was straightened (which I won't be doing at all until the first year of natural is over). The headband works now because I actually have enough hair to push back the headband, while stretching out the front of my hair, but I still feel weird with one on too. Ugh... I guess I just have to wait, and avoid mirrors lol.
In the process of emptying my cabinets.

Conditioners that work FOUND
Poo that works FOUND
Currently trying to formulate the perfect styling pudding. Once that happens all other things left over will be thrown out, given away. From then on I'm only buying to RESTOCK.
Ultimate hair goal: soft, healthy APL unstretched
"Don't remove the kinks from your hair, remove them from your brain." -Marcus Garvey
i bc'ed in dec '06 and remember hating my hair half of '08 because i was in that "in between" stage. i discovered twists that year and i think they saved my life.

my hair is a couple of inches longer now, and i'm still doing twists every couple of months for a few weeks. im rocking a set now, washing and deep conditioning and redoing loose ones once a week. i then put them up and forget about them, which helps ssssooooo much. im 1/2 from bsl now....
this is the reason i never BC'd. i couldn't function with a relaxed bob, so i knew that i would be clueless with a short natural.

what about finger coils? i think those are soOo cute. i have too much hair for those now (i mean, i could do it if i really wanted to spend 6 hours in my hair at one time). i know it's a rough patch, but do try and enjoy your hair whatever the length. because when it's longer, you can't do some of your favorite styles.

i perfected a rod set, and i stopped doing them once my hair got longer because i didn't want to buy a whole new set of perm rods and learn how to adjust to larger rods. my puffs are floppy. my wash n gos require too much product to make it worth my time...basically, things don't necessarily get better with longer hair.

i have BSL stretched hair but my twists shrink to my shoulders. i'm waiting for some more hang on my twists, so i'm in between too, just at a different stage.
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God what a great thread. Beyond the BC Hair purgatory is dangerous. It was dangerous for me. Too long for the cute shape anchored by your scalp. Too short for the hang. Doing the north, east and west, but definitely no south. WTF is it doing?

- It's not long enough to hang but not short enough to behave.

- It's not long enough to pull back into a bun.

- And trimming seems to be a no-no because --hey you are growing it and need every single centimeter.

Then we see all those shoulder length and beyond naturals and we are so focused on our hair future because that is way easier than our hair present. And of course these SL gals never had to go through this awkward period, they just woke up one morning and were SL.

I was in this stage several times in my life and each time it felt like I was unanchored and could not see the far shore. No matter how much I patted it down it refused to behave like a TWA. It also refused to behave like it wanted to drop and hang. I went through several cycles of growing it to a certain length, losing hope, and BC'ing. And it all happened before the curly hair product revolution I saw happen in 2000 and beyond.

The first time, I got it relaxed. My hair relaxed is limp and I really don't know how to care for it. So I BC'd.

The second time, I did a couple of things - got braid extensions; after they came out got it trimmed, rollerset and lightly blow dried at a neighborhood Spanish hair salon. My hair was mid short and thick and healthy and growing. and I loved it when it was cared for this way. But I couldn't afford this, didn't have the attention span to do it myself, and I was going through some emotional changes, so -- BC.

This time around it got the Jhericurl. Dry, breaking. BC!

Next time it got unmanageable, I got more braid extensions. After they came out, I went to a top stylist in my new town and he gave me a texlax and a shaping cut. It was a spot texlax, brushed on just like you brush on color in a technique called baliage. My hair looked very nice. I could wash and go in a short "natural" do--with curl activator. I got some growth, not much. I had to switch stylist becaue he was so in demand in the NY fashion industry. My new stylist continued to texlax. Got a little more growth and the chemically induced, curl activator "hang" but it never hit shoulder length. Started with the blonde thing. 7 years later got the damaged part cut off. It wasn't a BC but very close. And I continued to get texlaxed on the new growth.

So I texlaxed for 4 more years to try for hang and settled for very dry, dry, dry, dry hair and hang with curl activators. Every time I entered a hair salon it was "girl you need a deep treatment!" Enter Naturally Curly and my gradual (14 month) transition.

My obstacles:
- I did not trust my hair
- I kept comparing my hair to those other, better looking heads, and coming up short.
- I kept seeing my hair for what it should be, not what it was and could do in the present.
- I kept wanting to tame it -- work against it rather than with it.


I kept wanting this:


When I could have had this with my natural hair:


And I would have loved it, had I known how to style for it.

But what has been done to the short 4a/4b here (let's call her Miss Spikey High Clumps) is counterintuitive to what we length transitioners want to do with our hair. We want it to lay down at medium-short. We want it to "curl". At medium short I tended to over-use styling products to get my hair to "behave".

So how did Miss Spikey High Clumps get her hair that way? My guess:

- She got it continually trimmed and cut in places for shape - note the short sides and back and the longer top.

- She had product put into it and then dried in a hood dryer and then the stylist used pomade or texture paste to finger pick it and twirl it for height and clump. Or maybe they did large twists, dried, untwisted and finger picked and texture pasted. My best guess.


What finally helped me:

- Constant photo taking; There's a psychological reason I have a Fotki. Really helped me to see my hair for what it was not what I thought it was or should be. I definitely had/have some mental/visual hair distortion going on.

- Shape corrections. Yes, I mean getting it cut. Don't rely on product to shape your hair if you want to wear it out. March of 2008 I ended a length challenge by getting a cut. My ends were jacked. My hair was no longer close to shoulder length but the shape was fabulous. I've had 2 conservative trims since then, the last one in March. My next small trim? Probably end of June/July.

- Love and exploit your crown height now. Because you will lose it as your hair gets longer. I see so many length transitioners trying to flatten down their hair by their face/forehead and crown. If you have the right shape your crown height will give you an elegant, fashionable look like Miss Spikey High Clumps up there. The longer hair gets, the tougher crown height is to achieve.

- You want hang? Twists, braids, twist and curls, rod sets, roller sets.

- Looking at how long haired 4b's cared for their hair rather than what 3's were doing. I still do. But I looked at all 3c's and above who had successfully length transitioned. Have you noticed how many 3b's and below are using products formerly only used by we tighter-textured curlies? This approach works!

My hair is shoulder length when wet, but when dry still shrinks to my chin. Goes with the territory. I never, ever measure it "stretched".

After I started to really see my hair, I realized it would grow longer more like this:


And that was such a gift, because I love her hair. I won't even get my Fotki avatar's hair. And even though texture-wise Zezi Ifore is my twin.....


I don't delude myself that I will ever have her length; I have too many issues with length retention.

I'm pretty happy with what I do have. I use less styling products now and condition a lot more.

Miss Spikey High Clump's photo gave me the confidence to know that if I were to BC today, I could transition to longer hair without chemicals. Also, looking at successful 4 and4b length transitioners did it too, because if you saw my hair short, it's closer to 4b than to 4a, as would Zezi's hair also be. Check out Teri at Tightlycurled (biracialhair.org) -- not a 4b, but a wonderful example of how hair can grow with care. I lived her early hair.

HTH
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Last edited by Suburbanbushbabe; 05-24-2009 at 06:38 PM.
what a great post SBB! it was really moving, and i can definitely relate. thanks for sharing that
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Well, after SBB, I don't think I have anything more to add!

The only thing I can offer is another voice of encouragement. I just got past my first awkward stage this past March when I finally did twists for the first time. I BC'd April '08, so I pretty much wore a TWA/mini 'fro for almost a whole year.

I took a lot of pics, every month and saved them. I also kept a little journal about what was going on with my hair. I really needed to learn my hair since I hadn't seen it natural in quite some time.

Don't cut your hair. That delays the progress. I cut my hair because of my ends once. But then I called myself wanted to "shape" my hair. I had to learn to keep the scissors out of my hand unless it was those little knots and I don't see those much.

Here's the bright side of having shorter hair that I've discovered.
-- When we try products, we don't need to order large containers. Sample sizes can actually hold us over a couple of times.
-- If your hair coils naturally like mine, then you really don't have to do a whole lot to get it to behave.
-- Less time to do your hair overall.
-- Products last longer because we don't use as much... good money saver!

If those don't help... distract yourself by shopping for clothes and shoes, get into a hobby that you really enjoy, or do whatever else you normally enjoy so that you don't think about it so much.

Just don't let yourself get down from the waiting, sis. All the things you're learning now will have you with a healthy head of flourishing hair in no time and that's the main thing.
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Is it normal to be this flaky with my hair? The reason I bring this up is because I made a major hair mistake this week that I fully recovered from... Thank God, and I started to question why I did it in the first place. I realized the reason I did it in the first place was because I am getting bored with my TWA. Now that it's really starting to grow out ( The nape is 1/2 an inch stretched from SL, my sides are a little longer than ear length stretched, the Front is 1/2 an inch away from my eyebrows), I find myself getting restless.

I have grown tired of the same ole wash n go that I stretch out for 5 days in a row and then redo. I think that was why I got braids and then followed it up with the protein mess from hell. I initially was happy for like a day that i could finally wear a headband and push it back after I took my braids out, but that didn't last too long. Even today I was rocking an awesome TWA after doing Teri's method and I got bored with it by dinner time! I decided to do twists in my hair which was a pretty difficult when your hair is short. I had to do them pretty small so they didn't look a mess. Now that they are in I can't help but feel disappointed with the way they look because they aren't longer. I wish there was a magical potion that made hair grow overnight. I feel like when I first BC'd my hair was cuter and easier to deal with, now that's it's starting to grow out a little this In between stage is driving me crazy. Part of me wishes I transitioned longer, but I know that wasn't possible since my hair was breaking like crazy even though I was moisturizing all the time. It was looking a hot uneven mess. Le Sigh... Do any of you other TWA's who are in-between feel this way? Or have other women who are now medium to long haired felt like this in the beginning? I need a hair pick me up bad. I'm starting to have urges to cut it again.
Originally Posted by 4aspiral
This was me around month nine. I felt like I was at that in-between length and couldn't do anything with it. I rocked finger coils like nobody's business for the first six months and after my hair got longer they didn't look right anymore. I didn't know what to do with my hair and started fiening for a textutrizer. For me the solution was getting more creative and some patience. Look around my fotki. It make spark an idea for you.
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SBB THANK YOU so much for that post. It was really helpful and reading about how many times you texturized and then did braids etc... made me realize I wasn't going crazy, and that other people go thru the same thing. Also Thanks so much to the other ladies on here as well. I'm starting to feel better now. I will not cut unless I get splits which I don't have any of still . When my hair gets longer in a year and a half (from my bc date) or so I might have a little shape cut in so that it falls right. You were so right on about my hair! It's "unanchored" now LOL. it won't hang, it's way too short for that but it's floppy out on it's own acting crazy LOL. It naturally coils but it's becoming more apparent to me how different the textures are on my head. My sides are SERIOUSLY tighter like coffee stirrer coils and my crown and a portion of the top of my head are about the size of a sharpie marker. The front row grows the slowest and is the only part that is really coarse. NOw that it's growing out the differences are showing so much more and it's getting to be part of the aggrevation too. But I'm going to be patient, try to distract myself from my hair. My hair is still twisted now and I"m baggying it for moisture. I'm going to keep these bad boys in for a week whether I think they are cute or not and then do them again. I figure the more I try the better they will come out and less I have to deal with my hair.

You were so right on about looking at long naturals. I look at long naturals allllll the time and I forget to look at their BC pictures lol and realize it took them a long time to get to where they are now, it didn't just happen overnight. Thank all of you soo much, I"m feeling better. I'm sure I'll have a relapse lol, but I'll keep looking at these responses to help when I get into those times. If any of you other ladies have words of wisdom I'd love to hear them too. I probably won't feel great about length till I"m about 1 year or so and then after that I'll end up in my 2nd awkward stage LOL
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Conditioners that work FOUND
Poo that works FOUND
Currently trying to formulate the perfect styling pudding. Once that happens all other things left over will be thrown out, given away. From then on I'm only buying to RESTOCK.
Ultimate hair goal: soft, healthy APL unstretched
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wow SBB what a great reply! im glad youre a member here because i cant think of anyone else who would have taken the time to create such a great answer


any who, back to the OP. i understand your feelings of hair purgatory! i didnt even know what transitioning was when i did the BC, so i felt like i was behind the ball when i compared my hair's length to others who had been natural the same amount of time as i had. what helped me get through the awful inbetween stage was hair accessories (headbands and cute clips), trying different yet simple styles like braiding or flat twisting the front of my hair, and lastly not being afraid to get my hair cut. it does seem counter intuitive to let scissors be your friend, especially when yoe trying to grow your hair out but i would still get my hair trimmed regularly. split and rageedy ends will not aid you in length retention. they will do just the opposite and cause breakage. i firmly believe that if you dont get your hair trimmed when you need it, your hair will do it for you. also, like SBB, i would and still do get my hair shaped. it doesnt take away length and it really makes a difference in the appearnce of your hair.
but no matter what, you just have to ride it out and eventually you'll reach your ultimate hair goal. good luck!
Is it normal to be this flaky with my hair? The reason I bring this up is because I made a major hair mistake this week that I fully recovered from... Thank God, and I started to question why I did it in the first place. I realized the reason I did it in the first place was because I am getting bored with my TWA. Now that it's really starting to grow out ( The nape is 1/2 an inch stretched from SL, my sides are a little longer than ear length stretched, the Front is 1/2 an inch away from my eyebrows), I find myself getting restless.

I have grown tired of the same ole wash n go that I stretch out for 5 days in a row and then redo. I think that was why I got braids and then followed it up with the protein mess from hell. I initially was happy for like a day that i could finally wear a headband and push it back after I took my braids out, but that didn't last too long. Even today I was rocking an awesome TWA after doing Teri's method and I got bored with it by dinner time! I decided to do twists in my hair which was a pretty difficult when your hair is short. I had to do them pretty small so they didn't look a mess. Now that they are in I can't help but feel disappointed with the way they look because they aren't longer. I wish there was a magical potion that made hair grow overnight. I feel like when I first BC'd my hair was cuter and easier to deal with, now that's it's starting to grow out a little this In between stage is driving me crazy. Part of me wishes I transitioned longer, but I know that wasn't possible since my hair was breaking like crazy even though I was moisturizing all the time. It was looking a hot uneven mess. Le Sigh... Do any of you other TWA's who are in-between feel this way? Or have other women who are now medium to long haired felt like this in the beginning? I need a hair pick me up bad. I'm starting to have urges to cut it again.
Originally Posted by 4aspiral
This was me around month nine. I felt like I was at that in-between length and couldn't do anything with it. I rocked finger coils like nobody's business for the first six months and after my hair got longer they didn't look right anymore. I didn't know what to do with my hair and started fiening for a textutrizer. For me the solution was getting more creative and some patience. Look around my fotki. It make spark an idea for you.
http://members.fotki.com/Mozeke/about/
Originally Posted by mozeke
OMG your finger coils month 4-6 are soo freaking cute!!!! I def have to try that soon. Maybe I'll do them next week after I take out the twists. I think they'll look more presentable too, for the short hair. Your hair is slightly bigger than mine though right now, I think you have an inch on me in those pics. I'm in month 2 of my hair journey 5 months post relaxer. But I'm still going to give it a try. Thanks
In the process of emptying my cabinets.

Conditioners that work FOUND
Poo that works FOUND
Currently trying to formulate the perfect styling pudding. Once that happens all other things left over will be thrown out, given away. From then on I'm only buying to RESTOCK.
Ultimate hair goal: soft, healthy APL unstretched
"Don't remove the kinks from your hair, remove them from your brain." -Marcus Garvey

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