Natural hair is inappropriate for a bride

I am currently planning my wedding. My wedding is a year away and people are already asking me what I'm going to do with my hair. Quite a few people have "suggested" that I blow my hair out for my wedding. My fiance loves my hair. He wants my hair to be curly on our wedding day.

But others have told me that you're supposed to look your most beautiful on your wedding day and that's why I should straighten it. I find that extremely offensive. What is wrong with people?

I am also a makeup artist and when I go to work I get quite a few hairstylists offering to straighten my hair for me. Why do people assume that I want my hair to be straight? If I wanted it straight, I'd relax it.

I've also been searching for natural "bridal" hairstyles online so I can just print it out so that the next time someone asks me "What are you going to do with your hair on your wedding day?" I can just pull out the pic and show it to them.

But I can't find many pics of natural bridal hairstyles. My fiance would like me to wear my hair out and big. So I told him I'll wear a flower instead of a veil. But he really wants me to wear a veil and I can't figure out how I'd wear a veil with a big fro. I just can't picture that it would look right.

If anyone has any good links that show natural hairstyles for brides, can you please paste a link I'm having a hard time finding good ones.

Here's a link to a pic of my hair, I don't have any pics on my computer with my hair not set on rollers. But you can still sort of see what my hair is like. My texture is also similar to my cousins with natural hair behind me if you can see it. I don't like hair typing but if I had to choose one I guess my hair would be 4a.

Im the one upfront in pink.

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As soon as I saw the preview title ("Natural hair is inapp..."), I knew what this would be about, and my gut went "Oh no, no, no". Haha. I'm sorry that people are saying that. But their idea of beauty is narrow. Anyway, have you ever gone on Curly Nikki's site? She was natural for her wedding. And for my friend's wedding, she did a twist out, pulled it into a big pony high on her head, fluff it beyond belief, and put a gorgeous purple flower in the hairtie. Then at the reception, she took her hair down and put the flower behind her ear. =)

Last edited by moodydove; 12-20-2009 at 12:49 PM.
I think a puff, at the base of your neck would be nice.
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I couldn't access the link because I don't have Facebook. http://africanamericanweddinghairstyles.blogspot.com
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Last edited by Cammyb; 12-20-2009 at 01:26 PM.
I am currently planning my wedding. My wedding is a year away and people are already asking me what I'm going to do with my hair. Quite a few people have "suggested" that I blow my hair out for my wedding. My fiance loves my hair. He wants my hair to be curly on our wedding day.

But others have told me that you're supposed to look your most beautiful on your wedding day and that's why I should straighten it. I find that extremely offensive. What is wrong with people?

I am also a makeup artist and when I go to work I get quite a few hairstylists offering to straighten my hair for me. Why do people assume that I want my hair to be straight? If I wanted it straight, I'd relax it.

I've also been searching for natural "bridal" hairstyles online so I can just print it out so that the next time someone asks me "What are you going to do with your hair on your wedding day?" I can just pull out the pic and show it to them.

But I can't find many pics of natural bridal hairstyles. My fiance would like me to wear my hair out and big. So I told him I'll wear a flower instead of a veil. But he really wants me to wear a veil and I can't figure out how I'd wear a veil with a big fro. I just can't picture that it would look right.

If anyone has any good links that show natural hairstyles for brides, can you please paste a link I'm having a hard time finding good ones.

Here's a link to a pic of my hair, I don't have any pics on my computer with my hair not set on rollers. But you can still sort of see what my hair is like. My texture is also similar to my cousins with natural hair behind me if you can see it. I don't like hair typing but if I had to choose one I guess my hair would be 4a.

Im the one upfront in pink.

http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#/p...&id=1296127060
Originally Posted by melcurl

Okay well first off I disagree with you on the straight hair - if you want straight hair then straighten it don't relax it! That's ridiculous it will permanently straighten your hair and you would have to start all over again.
There is nothing wrong with switching up your look every now and then. You don't have to relax your hair just to have it straight for one day!!

I do agree that it is narrow minded to think you cannot have natural hair during your wedding, however this is how the world works so it isn't worth getting offended over. They probably associate wedding styles with "silky" and "sleek." Natural hair is neither of those things but it can still be more that sufficient enough for a wedding if you expand your mind, which sadly most people won't. If YOU want to wear your hair natural then do it. No one else should have a say on how you look on your wedding day because it is your special day and you are the one who will have to look back on it and be happy with what you see. People usually think natural hair isn't formal enough for occasions like weddings. Shake them off and don't worry about it. Do what you want to do. I am sure they won't all boycott the wedding on account of your natural hair.

I dunno if I think a veil on big afro hair looks right, honestly. You could have it out but I don't think an afro will look that great. It's up to you though you are the bride.

I think a non-veil look is very modern and can look very pretty.

you could rod set your hair, twist it, braid it, etc. i like braids for formal looks especially.

i do think it is interesting how few wedding styles you can find online on sites with "wedding style" photos. just shows how narrow people are.

Here are some styles I think could be very pretty for a wedding.






i think those two styles were taken from a site for this salon:
http://www.nedjetti.com/



you could do a smaller veil or what i think is called "birdcage veil." (see below) you could have your hair twisted/flat two strand twisted/cornrowed/etc. in a design in the front and out in the back (poofed out if you want). that way you can fit a small birdcage veil in the front.:



cornrows in front and two strand twists in the back:




twists with flower:



think this is like flat two strand twists and a twist out in back:



this is out natural in a straw set. you could plop a flower or feathers or whatever in there i guess:



you could rod set to get ringlets





you could definitely wear it out with little definition and slap some accessories or whatever in it:





you could use a definiting product and slick your back in a chignon bun:



possibilities are endless. you should definitely try whatever style you want a month in advance at least. maybe you could try going to a natural salon?

you definitely dont need straight hair to have a nice natural style for wedding. i think you know that so it doesnt matter what other people say.

i got all these styles by a great website i just found btw.
http://africanamericanweddinghairstyles.blogspot.com/

they have many many straight styles as well of you change your mind.

oh also you should try etsy shops if you want cute accessories. i love their hair accessories and you could wear them for a wedding if you want to. here are some shops i like and some wedding-ish things you might like...

http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php...ng_id=35105390

http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php...ng_id=34005541

http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php...age=2&includes[]=tags&includes[]=title

http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php...age=2&includes[]=tags&includes[]=title


http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php...ng_id=34965559

http://www.etsy.com/view_listing.php...page=&includes[]=tags&includes[]=title



good luck!
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cute pics cammyb. someone else had posted lots of natural hairstyles for weddings but i can't remember her user name. initials were kk.

@op - i would just ignore people suggesting you straighten your hair. do what you want. it will be your big day. some people can be so ignorant.
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ugh pics arent showing up again. seriously. smh...
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It's your wedding, wear what you want

Heck, people act like they are oh so creative with the straightwedding styles. Bun, side part, middle part, french roll, candy curls.... blah blah blah hahah

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your hair is beautiful. my only adds are to do some trial runs on what you want before, consider your hair in relation to your dress (some styles seem better for certain dresses), your natural is absolutely perfect for your wedding and consider how you want to transition your hair for your reception (this may be your opportunity to wear the flower). i feel there are so few surprises in life i would want to wait until the wedding day for my fiance to know what my hair would look like...
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As long as people continue to believe that natural hair can not be formal, or professional or (fill in the blank) and the more people that follow that rule and do not wear their hair naturally in formal settings, then the more we will see that perception persist.

If people see natural hair in formal settings, then it won't seem so unusual or unacceptable anymore.

I think some of the styles posted are really cool.
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Originally Posted by Suburbanbushbabe
omg love these photos. beautiful girls beautiful hair!!
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"Make your choice adventurous stranger;
Strike the bell and bide the danger.
Or wonder, til it drives you mad,
What would have followed if you had."


"I've often thought the Bible should have a disclaimer in the front saying 'this is fiction.'" -Ian McKellen
As long as people continue to believe that natural hair can not be formal, or professional or (fill in the blank) and the more people that follow that rule and do not wear their hair naturally in formal settings, then the more we will see that perception persist.

If people see natural hair in formal settings, then it won't seem so unusual or unacceptable anymore.

I think some of the styles posted are really cool.
Originally Posted by gemini
this!
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faves: suave, v05 shampoo, conditioner (my own), raw shea butter, castor oil, peanut oil, aloe juice
Some awesome pics here!
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I am in the same boat as my wedding is in 2010 as well. I think the key is to experiment with styles well before hand. Another thing to consider is how your style will hold up depending on the weather. A nice twist and curl will look like a big puff if there is high humidity or rain on your day (which is another reason not to striagthen/blow dry your hair straight)

It is difficult to find natural wedding hairstyles (I have been looking as well), which is why being creative and playing around with different styles and accessories might be your best bet. If you are doing your hair yourself, practice, practice, practice how you want your hair to look on your wedding day. And if someone else will be styling your hair, make sure they are familiar with your hair and how it reacts to different products and/or styling techniques.
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All the hairstyles are beautiful but I have to say I like the idea of big unapologetic fro with a flower in your hair. Of course, there is still the matter of the veil...
Ok....y'all better post them pics! LMAO Not only was some good advice offered, but pics too. Y'all better werk dang it!

OP, I was gonna suggest a puff, and then you could attach the veil to the puff somehow. Then for the reception you could have a nice flower, butterfly, or some nice accessory for your hair. Don't worry about what other folks are saying. Even your man wants your hair curly and that is who you have to worry about pleasing - now and for the rest of your life!!!!!
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