Your description makes it difficult to tell you much, other than you need moisture, moisture, moisture. If you are using sulfates and silicone, you're probably getting build up and preventing moisture from being absorbed into your hair. The sulfate strip the oils and moisture from your hair, along with the build up.

This thread has a lot of links for newbies.
3a (Corkicelli), highlighted, fine, low porosity

HGs: Anything Sevi; Curly Kinks Satin Roots, Curlycue ReNew and Coil Jam; homemade FSG and okra gel; soap bars; UFD Curly Magic; Botanical Spirits Jellies, CJ Repair Me, Aloe Fix