My sister does what you do also. She has beautiful locks, but she dosen't know how to 'handle' it, so she straightens it. (One of these days I'm going to get her to wear it curly.) What I did before coming 'equal' with my hair was experiment. What kind of shampoo and condish or either do you use? I think that they are both the most necessary and important things to wearing it curly and natural... A good shampoo and conditioner. Try rubbing a little bit of gel or mousse through your hair, it would help control some of the poof and define the waves and curls,.. you could also try plopping, which will help your curls to clump together. Just experiment, and remember to give your hair the necessary moisture that the straigthening might have taken away.