The fact she's asking Dear Abby to tell her "how to get around it" makes me think she probably needs her parents to tell her what to do. If she's a grown woman and wants to act like an adult, she should stop acting as if she's trying to get her parents to extend her curfew or trying to figure out how to get around it. She needs to either 1) get off the gravy train and move out , 2) tell her parents she's an adult, do what she wants to do and accept whatever consequences flow from that or 3) suck it up and let them control her life.