My 4 year old is a 4b and she has soft hair but it shrinks to about 75%.I am currently using ORGANIC Root Stimulator OLIVE OIL Hair Lotion and have used coconut oil, blended beauty butter but the products soften, ease friz but still shrinks. I always wrap her hair in ponytails but she seem to be hating this since she is now going to school. When I left her hair loose one day with a band she said almost all the children in her class (99% white) were touching her hair (she started a few weeks ago). I have since noticed that this has left my little girl a bit frustrated and has constantly said she once long hair. Previously at the day nursery she told me one day when I was doing her hair and she was looking at the mirror that another child in nursery had called her a guerilla. What can i do to help my little daughter? Also I need advise about products I can use to help with hair shrinkage which also a problem with my 4b hair - by the way I am in England in the UK.
Originally Posted by nomeva
your daughter's hair seems very healthy. healthy hair in her texture shrinks. that's just what it does because shrinkage is as much a property of our natural hair as our curls, coils, waves, frizz, and fuzz are.

i'm more concerned about the child calling your daughter names. i'd definitely bring that incident to the director's attention. your daughter has a right to feel comfortable and secure while in daycare and not be the target of demeaning remarks by other kids. that behavior needs to be nipped in the bud.

unless you keep her hair suffocated with heavy, coating products that weigh down texture and counter shrinkage, you should enjoy, and teach her to enjoy, her hair texture instead of trying to fix it.

personally, i'd change to more natural and milder products for her hair and forgo the use of petro-based products. i wouldn't obsess over fighting the shrinkage, but focus on retaining hair growth by keeping the ends healthy and by not using tight hair styles and accessories that can compromise the health of her scalp and hair.

i'm also concerned that at the tender age of 4 she's already showing that other's opinions of her is shaping how she feels about herself.

"Dogs stink too, but I like dog stink." ~ rileyb

Last edited by rainshower; 01-22-2009 at 07:40 AM.