shes really cute! her hair looks alot like my daughter's hair first thing in the morning (i have pics in my fotki and on my blog). if you have a whole foods near you, i would recommend trying out kinky curly knot today conditioner (it works as a leave in too) and kinky curly curling custard. you only need a little dab of the curling custard. it gives shine and reduces frizz without leaving the hair looking like it has product in it.
i shampoo my little girl's hair once a week and co wash the rest of the week with california baby calming conditioner. i use the calming conditioner as a leave in too. even though you said you dont want to order online, i recommend and really love curly hair solutions curl keeper. i mix it with her leave in and it makes her hair so shiny and frizz free. and you dont have to reapply it every day.
i refresh her hair the next day with rainbow research detangler for kids. her hair does not like detangler sprays with aloe. the aloe makes her hair dry and causes even more tangles.
she also sleeps on a satin pillowcase and sheet. and i put a silk scarf on the back of her carseat. both of those help reduce tangles and frizz.