Desperate need of help!!

(also posted on teen bored but figured I'd ask here too..)

Aahh.. my hair is sooo frizzy. I have gone shampooless now for a day but here is what my hair looked like two days ago. Oh, me oh my. I need a haircut but I've never had it professionally done. My mom went to barber school so she cuts my hair.
If anyone knows a salon around Birmingham Alabama that works, PLEASE TELL ME! I went to the salon page but the guy that was in B'ham (Josh) is not currently working and doesn't know when he will start working again.

I just did an apple cidar vin. wash and I put raw shea butter on it.. I guess we'll see what it comes out as.

Help me please! (and what type of hair do I have?)

(the left side of my hair you cannot see is EXTREMELY frizzy and no curl, no matter how much conditioning. )

Being funny.. not a great pic of me but my hair is the issue here. LOL
Only you can make the right decisions for yourself.
Oh, I bought the Moisture Kit from I have no clue if it will work but God, I am so fed up with my hair...
Only you can make the right decisions for yourself.
do you use gel? suave aloe vera anti frizz is a good gel, you might could leave a little conditioner in your hair, and to wet hair add gel then diffuse and let air dry as much as possible, once dry scrunch out hair with hands if it's looking kind of crunchy.
I hardly ever use gel, most of the time because I can't find anything that works.... I have a whole closet full of stuff I haven't used ina while.. Mostly Loreal or physique. Maybe beggers can't be choosers. LOL
Only you can make the right decisions for yourself.
well suave coconut conditioner is good and suave aloe vera frizz gel is good. just try this one day and see what it does. it would only be prob 4 or 5 dollars.
how do you style your hair? Do you comb it after you wash/condition your hair? Do you brush or comb or fingercomb your hair after it's dry?

I think you have pretty hair. I think you would benefit from a few long layers -- just something very subtle. I think that would add some more bounce to your hair.

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I LOVE, LOVE your hair in the first pic -- where it's laying down in front. That side is just beautiful!! Not bad either in the second pic. Looks like it was brushed in the 2nd pic??? I ask too, do you brush it?
It looks very soft - maybe a bit too soft to be holding the curl pattern.
Do you usually do ACV rinse? I can't do them because it makes my hair way too soft.
I think your hair might do well with some of the more holding products. I would try products first before layering - just to see what happens.
Your hair and you remind me of Kerry -- oh, what is that actress's name who ended up cutting her LONG hair short??? Yeah, pretty vague but she had the exact type of hair.
I would condish with a bit heavier condish. Maybe aussie 3mm. Your hair might do well with plopping too. That might give you some lift at the crown. IF it gets too poofy, then you may need some longer layers.
Your hair might do well with some of the HE gels.

Natural hair color - dark brunette
Fine, thinish hair/3a, 3b
what are you using as a conditioner? Do you put any styling products in your hair (you said gels dont usually work)
fine hair with botticelli curls according to my stylist
currently trialing devacurl low poo, one c and angell
I hardly ever comb my hair . The 2nd picture was a next day photo of what happens to my hair. I had showered the evening before and it was just before dark the next day... Maybe it was just because of the ponytail that is was soo flat? It often looks like that though...

I hardly ever style my hair... I'm not one to be in the bathroom for long hours but I guess lately since some people have told me my hair "needs to be done with" then I started noticing.

Soft.. yes.. it is VERY soft.

Excuse my dumbness, but what is "plopping"? I've having trouble with the flatness on the top and bigness at the bottom.. or was.

I just did an Apple Cidar Vinegar rinse last night. Then, after that I ddeeep condiitoned it with raw shea butter for about 30 minutes and rinsed. It felt a little greasy at first but not after it dried. I woke up this morning and still have bunches of defined silky curls but in a way it does feel somewhat greasy. My hair needs it though with all the damage. The frizzy spots I can see where neglected by being pulled up with a pony tail and were dry, brittle and VERY blonde (lot straw.. straw was once green you know. lol)

For conditioner I was using Dove Deep Conditioning, I think it was. I use that or Pantene Pr-V, which seems to work better but I'm all out right now. *I can't believe I forgot it while I was out at the store!*

Only you can make the right decisions for yourself.
which pantene condish are you using? I see two of them and they both have Cyclopentasiloxane which can build up in hair and there's the cone in them.
Which isn't water soluble in either Unless your hair likes cones...
Plopping is a technique done by many by using a t-shirt or microfiber towel and wrapping hair in it in a certain way. If you go to and go to her video links - there's an excellent video that shows step by step how to do it.
It works for many. It sometimes works for me.
What damage have you done to your hair? Are you talking about just the pony tail?
I think with the right products for your hair, you'll be ok. And like I said earlier... if you're getting too much volume below and not enough up top, then layering would be an option.

Natural hair color - dark brunette
Fine, thinish hair/3a, 3b
I used the Africa Shea Butter.. Here is what it looked like the next morning. Now, wether it stays this nice, I dunno. LOL I need to find a good shampoo I guess. The Pantene conditioner I'm using is: Complete Condition Silky Smooth and I just looked and it does have cones.

The Damage I think is from too much shampooing, I shampoo EVERY day and then not using a good conditioner on it and then when I pull it up the pony tail just does even more damage to it. I have sooo much either new growth or breakage on the top of my head..

Only you can make the right decisions for yourself.
The curl looks pretty nice and you've got volume on top after the shea treatment. It does look like you need a good trim tho. I think long layers would look really nice.
And yes - try and not shampoo everyday. Even if you don't get good enough second day hair, you can try and either just wet it down or do a condish wash or use a no poo or low poo.
there's so many products out there to try to see what works for you.
Before buying big bottles, a good place to try stuff is getting stuff on the swap board.
oh, do you diffuse dry or air dry?

Natural hair color - dark brunette
Fine, thinish hair/3a, 3b
I blowe dried it about a year ago and looked like something from the 80's. LOL Hilarious. I hardly ever diffuse because even though it leaves some curls my hair just kinda dries out.
Only you can make the right decisions for yourself.
I think your hair has the potential to be outstanding!

I'd recommend:

Shampoo less often and use a gentle shampoo.
You need a really good conditioner.
You need some kind of styling product.

Is there an Ulta near you? They carry a line called Activate which has an excellent non-sulfate shampoo and a great conditioner, very moisturizing. And they are not expensive, about $8 for a 12-ounce bottle. Sometimes you can find these products at Walgreens too.
Thanks for the information. I'll def. check it out. I just bought some products online last Monday or Tuesday. Not sure if I should have done it or not since it was soo expensive but if it works, that'll be great. If not, I'll be selling it on the boards. lol It comes with curl styling gel too..

I'll def. write that down. Out here in the boonies we don't have Ulta around me but I do have a Walgreens about 30 minutes away- I'll def. check it out!

Only you can make the right decisions for yourself.
Welcome and Happy New Year!

Honestly, you are very pretty and your curls just need moisture so PLEASE do the "Curly Girl" shampoo-less routine! If you lay off the shampoo your hair will rehydrate much faster and I'm sure then you'll have gorgeous curls! Look up the book of the same name at the public library as they may have it, in any case it's worth the $10 or so it costs. But meanwhile you can go ahead and read about CO washes and the rest at the shampoo-less forum, but right here I just bumped a thread named "Best way to hydrate curls after 15 years of straightening?" and there I explained how to do the CO wash and next step. I know you just ordered new products but I noticed it's just a starter kit, and, frankly, I wasn't one bit impressed by their ingredient list, so if they don't work just know that for the price they charge you can get better products for much less.

If by any chance any of the COs you already have are cone-free (good exceptions are amodimethicone and dimethicone copolyol or any with the letters PEG in front), you can try melting a tiny piece of the shea butter and mixing it with a single portion of the CO (in a little bowl) and then apply it on washed/rinsed hair, then just leave it all on, this will be much easier and will prevent you from applying too much. But if they have cones, you could just go to the Walgreen's and see if they have one of VO5s Tea Therapy or White Rain and use it for this experiment while you wait for your kit.

Keep us posted how things go, as you can see everyone here loves to help and the success of other curlies feels like our own!

P.S. Can your Mom do a 120 degree cut? That's one of the basics so maybe you don't need to wait for that guy, just tell her not to take much off because 1" of your wet hair turns into a loss of about 3" of dry length.
2A/3A, medium length, layered, colored dark/medium ash blonde - "CGer" since April '02.

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