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ssa79 01-08-2013 08:29 AM

What do I do when people are telling me to go back to straight?

flippacious 01-08-2013 09:34 AM

Well, you could start by telling them that cold weather and cold temperatures can't make you sick! That's a common myth. In fact, it's possible that cold temperatures stimulate the immune system and boost metabolism.

As for the fact that styling straight is easier, I think the decision is purely up to you and what you want out of your hair. Decide what makes you happiest, and stick to it! Plus it's my personal theory that this process will become easier once I get better at it, and once my hair is healthier and less frizzy, but we'll see about that...

rbb 01-08-2013 10:00 AM

it's your hair you should wear it the way it makes you happy.

i've gotten some remarks here and there from a friend about not coloring my hair. i consider the source (how she wears her hair) and let it roll off me.

Pheebie 01-08-2013 11:40 AM

Ditto everything said in the previous posts.

Personally, there is no way that straightening my hair would be easier than allowing it to be its naturally curly self. Furthermore, the damage you'll do to your hair with regular straightening is just awful. :sad2:

It's YOUR hair. Don't let others tell you how you should wear it and take care of it. If you want to straighten then by all means, do it, but don't do it just to please others.

sdkitty 01-08-2013 12:21 PM

I guess you just have to tell them you like your curls
As far as getting sick from the cold - I'm fortunate to live in a warm climate but if you're in a cold place, I wouldn't want to go out with a wet head. Can you diffuse instead of air drying? I actually get better results diffusing than air drying (but your hair is probably different than mine; mine is 3A)

shellyRN07swavy 01-08-2013 02:04 PM

All the prior posts have given awesome answers. And I agree that you should wear your hair, whichever way makes you feel more confident about yourself. I NEVER knew I had wavy/curly hair, until about 6 months ago, and I LOVE my hair now. I can tell you that I have received more compliments on wearing my hair curly than I ever did when it was straight. I love wearing it curly, it makes me feel empowered, sultry, fun and sexy...So decide on how it makes you feel, not on which is easier. I can also say that wearing my hair curly dose take less time, now that I have a routine down. And I know you said these are your friends, but keep in mind they might be jealous of you, almost all “straight girls” wish they could have curly hair. I know I did :)

BlackAngelPlayah 01-08-2013 02:31 PM

Haters are not always your enemies. :)

Anyway, at the end if the day it's your head and they can't MAKE you do anything. I don't even talk hair with my friends because they are relaxed and they'll say I have to do too much. Like sitting at the salon for SIX hours for a style that'll last 2 WEEKS is easy. SMH.

If you love your curly hair, stick with it. If you agree, straightening won't send you to hell or anything. :p

Korkscrew 01-08-2013 06:55 PM

You get to do what you want with your hair (but you knew that). Can understand your frustration over people telling you to change your appearance to something unnatural. They can go eat gravel.

And yet.

Sometimes, whether we ladies keep it straight or curly, we pour a whole lot of excess energy into trying to perfect our curls. The advice about dowsing one's hair in cold water does sound a little sadistic, even if it may seal the cuticles somewhat. It seals but it also feels really cold and uncomfortable. Sometimes we curlies sound a little over-the-top w/all our curly rituals (maybe your friends notice this, not sure).

So what if there's a little frizz? Anyway, I agree with you: curly hair can be harder to take care of than just straightening it IF the expectation is that the curly hair needs to look "just so", without a single fly away or whatever. ... Not saying you suffer this problem. This is just one more perspective.

NvmbrCurlss 01-08-2013 08:40 PM

If u wanna wear it curly, wear it curly :) if u wanna talk hair, log onto also find some relaxed/flat ironed folks are allergic to natural hair conversations...

ssa79 01-09-2013 05:32 PM


Korkscrew 01-09-2013 07:56 PM

Well good for you for your desire to embrace what's naturally yours (Up with the people :headbang: ).

People do have their opinions, don't they LOL Many just feel more secure with what they know and expect others to live inside that same limited box too. Hope you do continue to post and hang out here :D

cookiepie 01-11-2013 08:16 AM

It sounds like you are still transitioning & experimenting with what works for your hair. The transition period can be longer for some people. I can't remember how long it took me...but my sister recently transitioned from wearing her hair straight most of her life to wearing it curly and it took a good month before it looked decent. And now her hair is absolutely amazing! You have to give it time! But you also have to do what you like!!!

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