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Curly_Amira 04-17-2013 09:49 PM

Trying to go natural but struggeling! Help :(
Hi all,

Im 27, and have been struggling with my curls for a while. When I was younger I used to put it up all the time, and then I started straightening it. Had it chemically straightened once, but it fried my hair and it fell out and since then my hair has been super weak and unhealthy. I hated my curls so would only wear them every now and then but if Im going out I ALWAYS straightened it.

I realised the damage I was doing my hair and was due for a haircut so last week I went to see a curly hair specialist and he gave me a curly haircut and told me to stop curling my hair. I decided to go CG as well threw out all my products and only wash my hair once with sulphate-free shampoo and plop and do all the nice things I should do and moisturise A LOT.

My hair is obviously much shorter now that he gave me a curly haircut and the fact its always curly, it appears even shorter than it is when I used to straighten it (i love long hair). My curls arent turning out as nice they dry soooo slow and so flat and I really hate them its taking away so much of my self confidence. I actually dont want to go out at all with it!

Im just so tempted to reach for the hair straighteners again only thing stopping me is the fact that my hair is falling out and I am trying to stop damaging it (plus the stylist told me my haircut may look uneven when straight because it was specifically meant to suit curly hair)

Did anyone else struggle at first when going from straightening their hair to going natural??

rbb 04-18-2013 07:57 AM

i never straightened my hair to that extent, just the usual blow drying back in the day which was bad enough.
i can give you suggestions -- first off, i'd take a photo or two of your hair now so you can compare and see progress as you go along.
i'd do deep conditioning treatments weekly, very important. and, if your hair texture is fine, i'd do protein treatments from time to time.
finding out your hair properties will help you select products that are most likely to work for your hair. you can send for a hair analysis through (on side menu click on hair analysis).

also, keep reading for more info. have you read 'the curly girl' book, by lorraine massey (2009 edition). that gives lots of basic info. plus, read all the threads on here in the 'newbie' forum.

good luck, your hair will only get better, just give it time. the haircut was the right start.

RizosMio 04-18-2013 08:13 AM

I agree that the haircut was the right start.

I think you may just need to get used to you with curly hair. Shorter curly hair for the time being. I also came from a lifetime of waist-length, relaxed, straight hair and it's an's an adjustment to see yourself differently especially when you liked your look before.

Give yourself the time, keep doing the healthy things for your hair...learn its properties (texture/thickness and porosity) and the rest will come.

justdoingme 04-18-2013 01:42 PM

there's videos on youtube on how to recover from heat damage, you just need to stick to it, keep moisturising it and find products and a routine that works for you, it will take a long time, some days i like it, some days i get sooo frustrated but at least its healthy and is growing quite fast. i suggest doing frequent deep conditioning

Yoshimi 04-18-2013 05:35 PM

I have totally been feeling like this, I used to have keratine treatments and straightened every time I left the house. To make it worse I am pregnant so my self image is all over the place right now and I feel fat (even though logically I know I'm about the smallest ptegnant person I know)

It's been 2 months since I went CG, there have been a couple of good days but its only now that I'm finally starting to get happy, reliable results from my hair. I had a second cut today which has made a huge difference too, so I would say stick with it, it does get better.

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shellyRN07swavy 04-18-2013 07:30 PM

The first step is to realize your are beautiful this way. It's hard to go from one extreme to the other. I use to have bleach blonde hair and when I dyed it orown to match my natural color...everyone thought it was a mistake. Now when people look at old pics, they ask why did I ever dye my hair blonde... it's so pretty remember change can be good. Also remember most straight haired girls wish they had curly hair. Once you learn what to use on your hair, you will come to love it. It just takes time and effort. Everyone that has responded has given great advice. Just stay positive and focus on the good points. I first started CG b/c my hair was fried also, but now I love my hair more than ever. Wish I knew years ago that my hair would look like this.

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