hurtful comments people've made about your hair

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In my school curly hair is not such a bad thing. It's only the 4a and 4b type hair that everyone likes to make fun of.
Gee, I don't know where I should start.

My mom used to brush my hair and straighten it constantly and could never understand "why it was so ugly all the time". When I was in 5th grade, she gave up and chopped my hair really short so i had this big afro. I got "Fluffy" "puffball" "big head" And one girl I didn't even know came up to me and said "It's too bad your hair got curly, you used to be pretty".

In high school I spent hundreds of dollars a year trying to chemically straighten my hair, but it never worked. My culs are stuuborn. And people we always telling me I looked so much better with the stright hair, so I kept on doing it. I have since learned my lesson.

The other night though my boyfriend made me mad when he picked up one of my curls and said "I don't understand why it DOES that! It is so wierd! I tell you curls just aren't normal." :x
All through junior high school my nickname was Bermuda. A boy that sat behind me in French class announced to the whole class that if he stuck his pencil in my hair it would be sucked in and never found agian like the Bermuda triangle. Isn't that lovely. It was much fun to try and explain to new people why everyone called me Bermuda. I HATED junior high.

I think I'm a cross between a 3b and 3c
I'll have to post some pics so someone can tell me!!!
When I was really young my hair was super long so only my baby hairs in the front curled, then for some crazy reason I cut my own hair in about 3rd grade which as anyone might guess that turned out horrible, then I started getting it permed to make it more uniform, that's when the rats nest and mop comments came. Finally by seventh grade I had learned to make it straight and did that everyday until a few months ago. I'm trying to get comfortable with my hair but I usually resort to straightening it or putting it back. But I am getting better. If I had those tight ringlets many African-American women have I would the happiest girl in the world, and would never be worried about my curls.
It's crazy though how those things stick with you and make you so self conscious.
last year i didnt do anything to take care of my hair so it was a big tangled mess. EVRY1 told me 2 stragiten my hair. they all said that id better at least straighten it for grad (grade 8 grad) i didn't, of course, i loved the fact that my hair was curly i jsut made little hair things 2 go in it and it lookd nice. still on grad nite every1 was like "u shoulda straightnd it" im like "NO! im never ever as long as i live gonna straightn my hair and even if i do i wont let u c it!!!!!!! "
so now im in my new skool and all my old friends are still telling me to straighten it. my reply?
sumtimes bn stubborn pays off.
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All the kids in my neighborhood called me witch. And I heard countless comments like "your hair is so crazy"; "WHAT is your background?"; and my least-favorite: "I've never seen hair like yours before!"

I have shoulder length 3C curls. I'm Cuban and'd never guess it!
All the kids in my neighborhood called me witch.
Originally Posted by Catjwoman
lol me and my friends all used to believe we wer witches so if sum1 called me that i never took it as an insult
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Now, I absolutely hate it when people tell me "you'd be so beautiful if you'd only straighten your hair!"

People SAY that to you?

Trying to think of a snappy comeback
Originally Posted by MonnieKuh
Here's one:

"You know, you'd look a whole lot better if you stood about 50 feet away."
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Wow. Ive had nasty comments about my hair only recently (during middle school). That was when I started straightening my hair. I love my hair curly, and I was pretty much experimenting when I straightened it. Heres some of the things I was told. (By my "best friend" nonetheless.)

1. "You have a big frizzy mop, I could clean the floor with your head."
That was her comment when I had great, shiny, beautiful hair days. Argh.

2. "You need to straighten your hair more. You look loads better."
Personally, I think I look okay with straight hair, but its not as great as my natural hair.

3. "Buy this product and that, its what I use to get my hair nice and frizz free."
Whatever. If drowned rat, is your style, Ill keep my frizz.

4. "My hair is so easy to handle and do things with, unlike yours."
What. The. Crap. She must not know much about curly hair and I pity her.

Its safe to say we arent "best" friends anymore.
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I'm hoping I don't rain on anyone's parade (it will cause frizz! hee hee) but I found the person that was hardest on my curls was ME! My fave baby pic of myself has me standing buck naked in a pair of my mom's heels with HUGE Diana Ross hair...I lost my curls around the age of 7 and they returned at 15 (ahhh hormones) and I had NO IDEA what to do with them. I hated everything about my big, frizzy mess. It wasn't until my curly head friend took me under her wing that I figured it out! I still blow dried and flatironed for a long time after that in the wintertime (It's too cold to go out with wet hair here half of the year!) and almost everyone I knew missed my curls. I have quite a few guy friends who loooooove a girl with curls and would just shake their heads when I straightened mine out. So maybe there is hope for all the non-curlies out there!
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When I was at secondary school various people used to tell me that I needed to straighten my hair, that was when it was quite frizzy, though they did it in an insulting way.

I don't get comments like that now, except for one person, a month ago, who told me that I needed to straighten my hair - to which I replied that they were only jealous.

My friends all love my curls and only want to straighten it "just to see what it'd look like".
It's only the 4a and 4b type hair that everyone likes to make fun of.
Originally Posted by XxVonDucheSsexX
Why? What sort of school is this?
Supernappy, superbad, "when are you gonna put a relaxer up in that mess?"shrinking breaking TYPE 5 hair that - against all the odds - is growing quite long
Yeah...I used to have Shirley Temple curls when I was little, 3-7, but I hated them. Cinderella doesn't have curly hair. My mom loved it, but yeah, the one who hated my curls the most was me! When high school rolled around... things weren't so great. Last year, I straightened my hair as much as I could, and before I got it, people would offer to loan me theirs or recommend it to me. One glorious hallelujah day, it stayed straight the whole day...and my best friend said, wow, you're having a GOOD hair day!" She meant well, though. She's the one that wants me to be curlie!
Oh man, too many to even remember. I guess that a good story is the time that one of my friends did my hair for a formal in 8th grade. She said that she had a really cool idea, and she was one of those straight-hairs who wished she was curly (at least that's what she said), so I figured that she'd work with and not against. So I washed and conditioned my hair, and the first thing that she did was take a paddle brush to it. That should have been my tip-off right there, but as it dried and got bigger and bigger, she started screaming, "I don't know what to do with your hair! There's so much of it!" Finally, my mom stepped in and put it up in a French twist and it looked nice, but oh man, my friend did not know what she was getting into!
Dark brown BSL 2B - when I was a baby, strangers would ask my mom, "Did you perm your daughter's hair?"

For the record, that isn't me in my av! Camera crapped out, and so have to make do with pics of twins
A few months ago I went to a beauty college to get my hair done. I'd had good results before, but this time was a NIGHTMARE! The hairdresser had me and my poor hair crying. First she starts to go at my hair (which is probably close to 3 and a half feet long and pretty thin at the moment because of a stressful year) with a brush, and not just any brush one of the wire ones that remind me of something to use on a grill. Then when she couldn't figure out why (after me telling her what was wrong in my broken Spanish since this chick didn't speak English to not use a brush on my hair) my hair wouldn't cooperate she ran to get the manager. After the manager came they sat there an talked about my hair and it's condition like we (my hair and I) weren't even there. I finally got the manager to listen but I will never go back!

When I was in the fourth grade I went in for a trim at a REALLY expensive salon since no one seemed to be able to deal with my curls. That woman (who by the way was discussing my hair with my mom and complaining about her own short hait that just didn't seem to grow) cut off two feet of my hair. I went from having hair to my hips to having hair to my shoulder blades. I am still tramatized just thinking about it! And the worst thing is she laughed when my mom asked what the heck happened!

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Wow, I'm shocked at the curly hair backlash you guys have suffered from adults.

Really the only thing I can remember is from back in preschool, when this girl told me that she could run her fingers through her hair, and I couldn't. But, y'know, 5-year-olds. Also, I hated my hair when I was that age. Curly hair is not fun when you're wee, is it?

Oh, there was one other time. A woman I knew before I cut my hair (I always kept my hair braided when it was long), mentioned that afterward, I "looked like Shirley Temple." A mild insult, I thought, because she followed it up by saying she liked it.

Take heart, though, because I've gotten so many more compliments. When I cut my hair off (it was down to the small of my back, then I cut it off and donated it), the woman sitting next to me told her stylist "Can I have hair like that?" and pointed at me. In jest, of course, but it was nice and flattering.
How about pube head? I think people think they are being original. Another incident was when some girls walked by and said "nice perm" in a crappy way. How about the stylists who tell you how beautiful your hair is and then in the next breath say, "Let's blowdry it straight!"
Mostly 3B with some 3C. Faves :Sap Moss co and a weekly Sap Moss shampoo.
I've mostly been fortunate, my straight-haired friends were always getting perms and telling me I was lucky my hair was curly. The only real negative comments I got were from an ex-boyfriend, who would tell me he liked straight hair better (preceeded by "don't take this the wrong way") Needless to say, we broke up! Karma, however, was in motion, because a few months later he was calling me trying to get me back and I got to tell him that it was TOO LATE, I was dating someone else. Even better, that new guy eventually became my husband, and he LOOOOVES my curly hair, still tells me its gorgeous after 13 years!
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I have been blessed with hair that is naturally curly but no extremely so--I can straighten it fairly easily and wear it many different ways. I used to wear my hair straight or blow-dried wavy all the time, but recently I started wearing it curly, and, fortunately for me, guys love it. I get compliments on my hair all the time The person who makes to worst comments about my hair is the frustrated me
This isn't really an insult, just a funny comment one of my husband's aunts made. He has a few rich Greenwich, Connecticut relatives–they're like WASPS, only they're Irish Catholic. Go figure. Anyway, they all have straight brown or blond hair, ranging from ear length down to the shoulders. I have long, below shoulder length curly dark brown hair. We went to his uncle's funeral a few years ago and his aunt (who was the widow!) gave me a hug and said, "Angie," (they all call me Angie, even though my name is Angela and absolutely no one else in my entire life has ever called me Angie) "Angie," she said as she put her hands on both sides of my head, "You have such fun hair!"

Me, My husband and his sister still crack up about that comment. It's like their family thinks I'm so exotic and ethnic because I'm Italian and I have curly hair! Haha. They're really great people and I don't even mind that they call me Angie any more, but they are so silly.

I also get comments from people who see me when I occasionally straighten my hair. They always say "Wow! You look awesome with straight hair! So sophisticated!" which isn't really an insult, but it's a backhanded way of saying "Man, you usually look like a freaky witch hippie!"
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