hurtful comments people've made about your hair

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Gosh that's awful. I'm sorry you have to go through that. But you're handling it at 18 and to have that sense of self at that age that you know who you are and won't be bullied means you're awesomely strong.

My latest one seems dull by comparison. I tried to convince my mom to stop cutting her hair straight and straightening it (it just sticks out weirdly and never looks good). I showed her the before/after CG pictures thread. She didn't like the curly look at all. I thought it would inspire her. I flipped over to the most recent post I posted in the thread (though my face is blocked out, so she couldn't recognize me). When she saw the curls she said, "now, THAT'S unattractive hair." In fairness she didn't know it was me and acted embarrassed when I revealed to her it was. She tried to claim that it was only because the face was blocked out but couldn't keep a straight face saying it. I told her it was fine, I've known for a long time you think my hair is ugly. I shouldn't need her approval, but it does sting coming from a parent, even when you're grown up. We're so conditioned to want their approval.

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Gosh that's awful. I'm sorry you have to go through that. But you're handling it at 18 and to have that sense of self at that age that you know who you are and won't be bullied means you're awesomely strong.

My latest one seems dull by comparison. I tried to convince my mom to stop cutting her hair straight and straightening it (it just sticks out weirdly and never looks good). I showed her the before/after CG pictures thread. She didn't like the curly look at all. I thought it would inspire her. I flipped over to the most recent post I posted in the thread (though my face is blocked out, so she couldn't recognize me). When she saw the curls she said, "now, THAT'S unattractive hair." In fairness she didn't know it was me and acted embarrassed when I revealed to her it was. She tried to claim that it was only because the face was blocked out but couldn't keep a straight face saying it. I told her it was fine, I've known for a long time you think my hair is ugly. I shouldn't need her approval, but it does sting coming from a parent, even when you're grown up. We're so conditioned to want their approval.

2C/3A/f/i
Baby fine hair, medium porosity
Shampoos: SM Fruit Fusion (mostly), KCCC, Avalon lemon (to clarify). Occasional aloe vera and glycerin to wash.
Stylers:Catnip Tea, Intelligent Nutrients Perfect Hold Hairspray
Treatments: Fermented Rice Water, Catnip Tea, Amla tea, Irish Moss
PT: IA Girl's PT and SS PT
Gosh, that made me cringe. I'm sorry for you =(. I just find it hurtful that people can be so offensive towards natural hair. It's who we truly are, no matter what we do to try and change it. That's why I'm insulted when people reject it so....carelessly.

I see it like someone preferring blue eyes over brown eyes...and that's ok (beauty is in the eye of the beholder). But it starts to become a problem when you start ragging on brown eyes because they just don't meet your criteria of beauty. Even worse, when you can't acknowledge the fact that it's not because they are not beautiful to you, that it's not beautiful to someone else.

They don't have to like it, but they should accept for what it is and respect it.
Gosh, that made me cringe. I'm sorry for you =(. I just find it hurtful that people can be so offensive towards natural hair. It's who we truly are, no matter what we do to try and change it. That's why I'm insulted when people reject it so....carelessly.

I see it like someone preferring blue eyes over brown eyes...and that's ok (beauty is in the eye of the beholder). But it starts to become a problem when you start ragging on brown eyes because they just don't meet your criteria of beauty. Even worse, when you can't acknowledge the fact that it's not because they are not beautiful to you, that it's not beautiful to someone else.

They don't have to like it, but they should accept for what it is and respect it.
Girl these hateful comments are hurting me! Forget these haters they're just a day away from getting that sweet, sweet karma! Stay strong ladies
I remember in 3rd grade, the teacher passed out our school pictures and showed everyone as she was doing it. One boy yelled out that I had a "Triangle Head".
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I cant say that I've had hurtful comments per say, but I have been made fun of for having my two huge afro puffs in elementary school. A little boy who sat behind me would complain that he couldn't see over y hair, although he was at least a head taller than me. And he would poke my afro with pencils until I gave him what he needed at got sent home. That was years ago and we are surprisingly good friends now in high school.
One recurring theme I am seeing here is that most of us curlies were teased as children/teenagers but it seems to level off entering adulthood. What I'm curious is, has anyone else been teased or openly insulted as an ADULT about their curls?

I started straightening my thick, red hair when I was 15 years old. Previous to that I was teased horribly and called so many names both for the colour of my hair and the texture. Kids would yell "Ch-ch-ch-chia!" at me (After the commercials with the little planters shaped like animals that sprouted grass or whatever).

After I got my hair chemically straightened I was treated SO differently. All of a sudden boys were asking me out and people were complimenting me all the time--no one EVER complimented me before.

So for 15 years I kept straightening it. Every one including my family seemed to forget my hair had ever been anything but straight, and my confidence soared. People complimented my hair constantly and I considered it my nicest feature...

Then about 2 or 3 weeks ago I decided, finally, enough is enough. I wanted to grow out my bob-length hair and let the curls return, so I found this website and bought the right products and I've been curly ever since...most of the feedback at work and out in public has been positive, at least from women. Every woman I know has said my curls suit me and they are beautiful and jealous of my volume...the men however, clearly do not agree. I've received a lot of "what happened to your hair??" and "Are you not feeling well? Your hair was always so sleek and straight!" and most just say nothing and don't make eye contact...I've actually never felt more unattractive. It made me feel like that little girl all over again being called ugly and frizzball etc.

Just today on my walk home from the train a group of youngish (20s) guys actually pointed and laughed at my hair...I am 30 years old. I thought as an adult I wouldn't have to deal with this. Anyone experience something like this? Maybe it's just me.
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