Does your family drive you CRAZY?

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My parents and sisters drive me to drink, sometimes literally. I've been the family glue, caretaker, planner, mediator, problem solver, babysitter, etc since I was a kid. It's exhausting and has sucked the life out of me and made me at least slightly crazy.
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This is me, but you forget banker, money lender, go-for and even scapegoat
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Oh you can add those to my list also. I just gave my sister money yet again a few weeks ago (the sister who isn't speaking to me because I am evil, bossy, uncaring, and unsupportive. Yeaaaaa, right.)
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My immediate family is great. My extended family has its fair share of crazy, but I don't have to deal with it. My in-laws drive me a little cuckoo sometimes; they're very nice, but are not at all understanding of a person's need for space. If I visit and refuse a snack, my MIL thinks she did something to offend me, when in reality, I just wasn't hungry (for example). It's a little irritating.
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Originally Posted by Parissy198907
Same here.
I live with my parents and stay in my room most of the time I'm home. If I hear them coming home and I'm in the living room I'll run off to my room to avoid them. My mom always makes rude comments to me that come out of nowhere. If I drop something or mess something up she'll say something like, "Way to go Finch00! Way to **** it up!" in a joking but still offensive way. I'm the only one of my siblings who won't openly insult her back or tell her I wish I was never born like my brother did, so she seems to take her anger at the whole family out on me. Same brother told me she said to him "I had to stop doing drugs because of you!" I wish he was making it up but it wouldn't surprise me.
My dad just goes on long rants about politics/ illegal immigration/ etc. My brother calls it "ear rape". He just talks at you, even if you're clearly not interested.
OK so the impetus for this thread was a rather confusing and upsetting call with my parents. I called them on July 4th and talked to my mom for a few minutes. Then I talked to my dad for just another couple minutes. Here's part of the conversation. This is actually the end of the conversation when I was trying to get off the phone and it had been pretty pleasant to this point:

TNB: "OK, well I just called to say 'Hi'. So I'm gonna go. Have a good night."
Dad: "Did you want to talk to your aunt?"
TNB: "Um, no, that's OK."
Dad: "Why not? You should give her a call."
TNB: "No, that's OK. I'm gonna go. Have a good night. Byyyyyyyeee."
Dad: "OK, I'll let you go so you can call your aunt. Good night."

Maybe 10 minutes later my mother calls me back and says:

Mom: "TNB, did your father say something to upset you? You got off the phone so fast."
TNB: "No, not all. Why?"
Mom: "Because you rushed off the phone and it upset your father so bad. Is something wrong?"
TNB: "No, I just wanted to get off the phone."
Mom: "Well, if you hate us so bad then you shouldn't even bother!"

Then she hangs up on me. I asked my husband to run interference, which he did, since he's usually better at these things than I am. He said my mother was crying on the phone with him. Ugh, I don't get it. I haven't spoken to my parents since Wednesday and don't really want to now. There's too much drama. But how did this all happen? Does anyone know? Can you please shed some light on this situation? I'm confused. And what should I do now?

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I would ignore them for a while, since it's hard to deal with irrationality.

I'm not the most sensitive of family members, though. No patience left over from my own experiences.

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My family drives me crazy, but only a few of them. I LOVE my dad. He's one of my favorite people to be around. But he in general doesn't talk a lot. You have to draw him out and it's awkward for a little bit, but once you get him talking, it's some of the best conversations ever.

My mom drives me batty. She's going slightly senile, lives almost constantly in their house and I think has agoraphobia a little until she gets used to going outside again. My mom and I are very similar in a lot of ways, which is probably why she drives me ape****. But where she constantly needs approval for everything (like cleaning out a closet, cleaning a toilet, vacuuming), I don't want praise for everything and don't think to really give praise often.

My sister and her family in general are just kind of selfish. Our family has a tradition of cooking breakfast for holidays and other stuff. Like 4 lbs of bacon, 2 lbs sausage, 1 lb ham, hashbrowns, eggs, toast, cinnamon rolls and I don't know what else (when the whole fam is there...5 kids, their spouses and kids). I go over there at 6:00 am to help my dad cook this. My sister (she's the only one local now) shows up whenever she feels like it, sits in the living room and watches TV and asks when the food will be ready. They'll gorge themselves on the food, then get up and go sit back in the living room, leaving all the dirty dishes for me and my parents to clean up. I have two brother's who will help cook IF they get there early enough, but they usually just arrive in time to eat.

Did I mention my mom has disintegrating disks and my dad just had both knees replaced? So I come over, cook the food, set the table, watch everybody devour the food, then put it away in the fridge and clean up the table. That was a fun holiday for me. And they never once offer to help, just go into the digital zone (aka, watch TV the whole time).

I also had my siblings have an intervention because they thought I was abusing prescription drugs. Wouldn't believe me when I told them I wasn't. Then when I was admitted into the hospital in kidney failure (eventually reversed to chronic kidney disease) that has symptoms that can mimic drug abuse, nobody apologized. They told me that I have to tell the doctor of all the medication I'm using, still not believing that I'm not abusing medication. When the doctor confirmed with them and me that there were no amphetamines or opiates in my system because I was sick of the hassle (yeah, I made them do a hair analysis, too), they just ignored the situation like it never happened. I never once got an apology for them hounding me for months about abusing drugs.

I love my family and we have fun when we're together, but they just drive me crazy. They're always soooo worried about me. I'm pretty sure I can take care of myself. Been doing it for years and haven't killed myself yet, so that must be a good sign, right?
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