Someone please help me with my daughter's hair!

My daughter has type 2B curly hair. I have done the sulfate-free shampoo, use great conditioner, etc. My probably is the dreaded morning tangles!!

Her hair is so tangled in the morning, and it is a constant battle. She has actually hidden brushes from me because I'm always buying new brushes that I "hope" won't pull her hair as much. The only one she will allow me to use on her hair is a "soft" (boar's hair) brush, but that only makes her hair frizzy and doesn't get the tangles out.

I have tried every leave-in conditioner I can get my hands on. I have literally spent hundreds of dollars on products hoping to find "the one" that will detangle her morning tangles.

I have put her hair in braids before she goes to bed. This doesn't help -- her hair is so fine the braids just fall out and create more of a mess for me.

I've been told to make sure her hair is damp before I brush. I get it as wet as I can (short of dunking her head under the faucet). This hasn't helped.

Like I said, I have tried lots of products and spray-in conditioners that say they can be used on dry hair. But by the time I get it sprayed down and brushed out, most of the curl has changed to just an S wave, and it's frizzy. And every product seems to weigh it down and decrease the curl.

I have tried using different combs, picks, brushes.

I have tried washing her hair once a week and only using conditioners.

I don't know what else to do. Please, someone help!!!

Last edited by jkerickson; 02-11-2013 at 06:41 PM.
Have you tried a satin sleep cap? That makes a big difference for my daughter.
My daughters hair is very similar. I have 3b and she has 2a (used to be 2c until it got below her waist and then baby hair was cut away and they never came back).

We have to make sure a heavy conditioner is used with a wide tooth comb when she gets a bath and then braid (since it's gotten thicker, it falls out less).

Between washes a friend gave us a brush that has both hard and soft bristles and it seems to work.

I just recently started using Shea Moisture on all three of us (son has 3a) and it seems to be working at keeping hers from getting too dry. If she has a bad morning, I use a Garnier Triple Nutrition Spray to get it going.

I hate leaving her hair loose because by the time she gets home from school it's matted in places and she doesn't want it cut again because GeeGee (my mom) cut it too short last time (according to her but not us).
WavyAmee: I have not tried a satin sleep cap -- that's the first time I have heard of that! I will have to search for one.

PearlRose: I don't have any problem getting the tangles out during/after bath. It's really just in the morning when it's a rat's nest. I have not tried the Garnier Triple Nutrition Spray (I don't think I have, anyway). So maybe that will be what I try next. I love Garnier products and I've tried many of them on her hair but they still don't tackle those tangles.

I am wondering though where I can find a brush with both the hard and soft bristles that you mentioned? May have to look for that as well.

I have tried braiding her hair before bed, but her hair still comes out a tangled mess. I don't know what to do. It is such a battle every morning. I keep hoping to find some "miracle" product that will detangle her hair, but I just don't think one exists!
FYI the satin sleep caps are pretty easy to find, look in the "ethnic hair care" section at walmart, they'll usually have plenty and satin scarfs too, in case the sleep cap is too big.

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I don't know exactly where my friend found the brush that she gave us, but it's by Goody.

I was at Target on Saturday and I saw others with the same type of bristles.

Of course the selection online isn't the best, but this has both types of bristles on it. Ours is the Wooden Handled one though and the only brush that works when her hair is dry.

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You can put your normal conditioner in a spray bottle with water, and that might work better as a detangler. Also, most curlies don't brush their hair when it's dry. I personally have 2c hair that doesnt look good when it's brushed. It just becomes frizzy and big. Is it possible you could just wet down the tangles, then gently pull them apart with your fingers? That way it won't frizz much, if that's a problem. You should be holding her hair at the top when you brush it, so you aren't tugging on her head and hurting her.

To prevent tangles, I would recommend a satin bonnet too. Also, there are satin pillow cases you can try too. If her hair is long enough, you could pineapple it.
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Stylers: Shea Moisture Curl Enhancing Smoothie, LA Looks Sports, Suave Professionals Captivating Curls Whipped Mousse

Last edited by rainboe; 02-13-2013 at 02:37 AM.
Have you tried a cleansing conditioner?

Out of curiosity I bought the Loriel Curl Cleansing Conditioner at Target since I had to get cards for my daughters K class.

I used it last night (about 8 pumps because her hair is to her hips again) and because I was so tired I forgot to braid it last night. This morning my husband said there were hardly any tangles.

That is just day 1, we'll see how it is after I get her from daycare this evening and tomorrow morning on a no-wash day.
You say that the braids just fall out because her hair is so fine...have you tried banding the braids at the ends with little elastics?

What kinds of products have you tried? I agree that a conditioner (leave in or a regular rinse-out used as a leave-in) mixed with water is a good try.
I vote also for conditioner + water mix in a spray bottle, satin cap and Shea Moisture products. We're using Tangle Teazer for our family, a less unconfortable way to get the hair detangled (we're more curly though, my young daughters 3c)... Have you tried any deep conditioning treatments? The might help if the tangles are caused of dryness...

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Hi!my little one has 3c hair and keeps getting curlier so i understand dryness and wild morning hair! hahaha.if i could get my toddler to wear a satin cap, that would be amazing! hahaha NO WAY IN HELL will my little one sleep with a silk cap on, so we resorted to a silk pillowcase, but she also ends up with that on the floor anyway hopefully your lil girl is a heavyer sleeper haha.i dont know what my lil one does in her sleep, but even if ive washed her hair and it looks like amazing angel curls before she goes to bed, when she wakes up in the morning its an insane afro-birds nest, like she lost a fight with the electrical socket, she must move about ALOT.anyway our solution, depends on the day. if its a day at home, i dont fuss too much, this makes her happier and me too. For those days, I simply use a spray bottle with what others have suggested, her usual conditioner, and water. I use about four big pumps of conditioner with the rest water and give it a good shake. Depending on the weather and your daughters hair you can give or take on the amount, experiment. I find that spritzing it like that, then gently raking my fingers thru her curls, then scrunching it with a microfibre towel, fixes the frizz and poof nicely. it doesnt look a million bucks, but its certainly much better. tamed enough.for days when we are going out and she needs to be more "presentable" i go heavier on the conditioner. Ill spray it with the same stuff, then ill go get about a teaspoon of conditioner, rub it in my hands and rake it through her hair with my fingers, brushing as i go. her hair is quite covered with it when im done. then i scrunch dry if its summer, or use a diffuser for a very short time if its winter. always works nicely. she always gets great compliments for her hair every time we leave the house. her hair is thin, scarce and wild, but always manages to look good with this method.but ive never been able to use any kind of brush on her hair at all. Hurts her way too much. The closest ive used is a large "afro comb" (she doesnt have an afro, but its wide toothed and perfect) and i can only use that when her hair is saturated in conditioner (when im washing it in the bath) to get the tangles out. otherwise its just fingers, gently raking, separating and pulling apart knots (gently). Sometimes she screams bloody murder...other times she laughs through it. i dont think its the pain level as so much the kind of mood she is in that day coz we got it pretty good now, were good at de-tangling these days just try using your fingers :-)also, check your shampoo for sulfates and conditioner for silicones. the more natural the better, prevention is better than cure after all. good luck!
If she won't wear a sleep cap- try a satin pillow case
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