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coconilla 05-15-2012 05:10 PM

Why are you transitioning?
Why did you all decide to go natural?
Was there a defining moment or was it just because you realised your hair was getting damaged?
What was the hardest thing when you first started?

For me, I stopped relaxing because I started heat straightning, then after a while, not on purpose, just straightened less and less because I was busy, then i noticed how badly damaged my hair was and started googling about natural hair and went from there. I saw so many people on these forums and YouTube with beautiful natural hair, and I realised I didn't really have "bad hair", nobody does, me and people with bad hair would have "good hair" if we care for it, not straighten it because it seems easier.

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liyahjay 05-15-2012 07:49 PM

The reason for my transition is my desire to restore my hair's health and growth. I've been getting perms since I was 9 or 10. I was 21 when I decided to go natural. Didn't know if it was something I really wanted to do because transitioning is a big step and going natural is a different world from what I was used to. My last perm was in February 2011, after I had a bad experience with a sew-in weave. My hair grows so fast, so I had my new growth straightened til May, when I got my senegalese twists. Kept them in til August, and I loved them, but I made the mistake of washing my hair before coming it out. Painful experience. In October, I realized that my hair was half relaxed half natural, so I got the big chop. Thought I would realize what I'd done and be overwhelmed with regret, but honestly I wasn't. I loved my mini afro. From October to now, my hair has been growing like wildfire, and is now a full grown afro. I wash it every two weeks, oil my scalp every week, and plait my hair every night. Getting marley twists this weekend, and I'm so excited. Made a lot of mistakes during my transition, but I don't regret them. Without the mistakes, you can't learn from them.

PearlsForCurls 05-15-2012 09:02 PM

Hey there! I am transitioning because I'm ready to embrace my hair without chemicals. I workout daily, and I used to dread it or even stop for about a week when I got relaxers. Total killjoy haha. Also, I've been getting relaxers since I was FOUR years old...I am 21 now (thanks mom!) Lol. Relaxed hair is all I really knew! I actually used to wear my hair curly WHILE I had a relaxer! Here is a photo below (I'm on the right)

I actually started on accident. I just kept procrastinating getting my touch up because I was on a roll with working out and losing weight. I'm almost five months out and I'm loving this journey. I think the hardest part is actually trying not to become a Product Junkie, lol I want to try everything!

But so far I have had kinky twists and next week I am getting flat twists!

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coconilla 05-16-2012 12:23 PM

Liyahjay... more brave than me! I'm still trying to pluck up the courage to cut of all my damage. You've got guts. Did you find it grew faster after you got your big chop?
Can't believe it grew so fast, you're lucky lol, and it looks so lovely and thick aswell.

Pearlsforcurls... I started relaxing at the same age, my sisters did mine though, I've told them I'll never forgive them lol. I think when you start so young your hair gets messed up forever, I've got some funny bits in the front that people say is because of relaxer.
Your curls are really nice, I could never get mine to be as defined as that lol.

Well good luck to both of you anyway :)

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MissKris 05-16-2012 09:36 PM

My transition has been complete for quite some time but I'd like so share anyway. My last relaxer was October 2006. I realized that I needed so much product for styling that it could break my pockets. On top of that, my hair wasn't growing like I wanted. I figured that since I had been on chemicals and unhealthy styling aids for most of my life, I'd have to start from scratch. I started with tree braids and kept that up for several months. In between braid styles I'd wear a pashmina with the knot off slightly to the side. September 2007 was the big chop. I then began wearing a fro with cornrows in front. Since then I've liked changing it up with wigs, sew-ins, braids, and the pashmina.

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anonymous_114091 05-17-2012 03:38 PM

It's something I fear and am curious about. I'm tired of wondering what my natural hair is like, and I am tired of dealing with two different textures no sooner than a month after relaxing, so I'm going for it.

Oh, I'm new, btw. Hi! :wave:

curlangel0690 05-23-2012 09:48 PM

I am transitioning from heat damaged hair from my flat iron. I had an unfortunate accident at work about a year and a half ago where a bunch of metal signs fell on me and I damaged the nerves in my right arm leaving me unable to use my right hand for about 2 months. As a result I couldn't hold a flat iron, hair dryer or anything else. It was kinda sucky especially when I had to have hubby do my hair for me(which is pretty much as scary as it sounds). During that time I realized how much I had missed my curly hair. When I got better I straightened my hair once more. The smell of burning hair and the lack of curls made me sad. That was the end of that for me. I put away the flat iron and dryer and started to research how to fix my hair. That led me here and a year and a half later I am a die hard curly. I always thought I had 3a/b hair until I started taking care of it and found out that the new growth I was growing was a strong 3c. Now I am so in love with my hair and in a few more months I'm gonna BC. I'm so excited! I think those metal signs were the universes way of knocking some sense into me, lol.

liyahjay 06-03-2012 09:26 PM

@coconilla it definitely grew faster after I cut it because I did away with perm chemicals and the damage and kept my scalp moisturized. Moisture is key for health and growth

MissKris 06-03-2012 10:31 PM

Amen! Plus consistency...

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bluedreams 06-05-2012 11:39 PM

I’ve been natural for quite a while now, but the main reason I went was because I realized the relaxers were damaging my hair worse each time I used it. I never wanted my hair full straight, just long, so I’d purposely sabotage the relaxing afterward to leave some curl left in my hair. I’m really low key when it comes to taking care of my hair…so this do-it-yourself mess that I went through to get some length while burn my scalp and frying my ends started to just not be worth it. I don’t remember why I decided to stop, I was just sick of it.
The hardest part was, by far, letting it go back to “normal.” I wasn’t used to seeing my hair that curly and the ends remained fried. I couldn’t trim my hair for a long time because I wasn’t willing to do the big cut without a good amount of length already established. Cutting it really meant stages of cuts over time. It also took a while to learn what did and did not help my hair. For example, mousse. At first it makes my hair look great. But soon it’ll make my hair frizz. I had to live with “short” hair for a long while (short being just above my shoulders). And the fact that the back of my hair is curlier that the front…which made it trickier to cut or style
But I love the surprises that came with it. Like the first time I tried a deep conditioning recipe and learned that when moisturized and wet my hair would bounce when I jumped. The compliments increase dramatically. Turns out sabotaged relaxed hair comes out stringy looking on my head. My hair now looked fuller and healthier. It was softer and vibrant to the very ends. My hair needed less product to make this happen. And when I finally cut my last dead ends, my hair grew FAST. It’s now an inch below my collar bone and I hope to get it to just below my chest.

mixedecua 06-12-2012 07:48 PM

I wanted to transition because i hated the feeling of being a prisoner to perms(if that makes any sense).i wanted my hair to be free without having to worry about getting a perm.i also hated how thin and barbie doll like my hair looked when i straightened it.i want a natural look.i also realized my hair was pretty in its natural state and i didnt need a perm

rae_ofsunshine 06-15-2012 04:18 PM

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I'm 17 and I started getting relaxers when I was about 5 years old :sad10:. I've never known my true texture and my relaxed hair has always been very thin and boring. So I decided to make a change. I've been transitioning since May 18, 2011:wav: yay ! My hair is a LOT longer and my braidouts look a hundred times better !! I can't wait to get rid of those ends though !

nownatural2 06-23-2012 01:21 PM

As with the other posts I too got fed up of having to relax all the time, plus I became more & more concerned about the amount and type of toxic chemicals that go into relaxers and how these obviously go directly into the bloodstream through the hair follicle.

You only have to imagine this going into your bloodstream every six weeks for the rest of your life and its enough to put you off for life!
Even worse is reading that children as young as 4 or 5 are using them..:sad8:

Black people were the first people on this earth, we are the original kings and queens "the people that do not burn under the sun and the keepers of water" (under Africa is enough water for the whole continent if not the world, ironic that they are dying of thirst isnt it? accident or on purpose?)

unfortunately many factions work very hard to keep this conscious knowledge from us, including saturating us with mind numbing chemicals in any way possible to keep us from even asking a question. Deep but true.

We have to wake up and it starts by going back to our roots (literally!)

When Black Ruled The World - YouTube

Check out brother Phil Valentine videos too (master of metaphysics)

To me its way deeper than just transitioning the relaxer, its about the fact we should never have wanted to have straight european hair in the first place and why we define our hair as ugly.
I used to hate my hair so much and wished it was longer, silky-er, I love my natural hair so much & it FEELS right!
This is what my hair was born to be.

RingletTeenLove 06-23-2012 08:19 PM

Chemicals , other than hair dye , make my hair fall out. Bald spots and every thing. I first had a perm (relaxer) when I was 11 and it worked for about 5 months then I transitioned but I kept straightening. Then my hair would stay straight for long. So I got a texturizer when i was 13 and my hair fell out in like a week. So now that I'm 14 and almost done my process my hair is strong a gorgeous:)

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NaeShelle 06-24-2012 03:21 PM

Nothing really new here on my end, but, I'm transitionion because of personal (I was tired of having relaxers on my head four or five hours at a time just to get my kinky newgrowth to lay down - which it never did for more than a few days) and medical (my chronic migraines would get worse before I got a realxer due to me stressing myself out and then after I got one due to the chemicals reacting negatively with my body) reasons.

adthomas 06-24-2012 06:20 PM


Originally Posted by NaeShelle (Post 1981034)
Nothing really new here on my end, but, I'm transitionion because of personal (I was tired of having relaxers on my head four or five hours at a time just to get my kinky newgrowth to lay down - which it never did for more than a few days) and medical (my chronic migraines would get worse before I got a realxer due to me stressing myself out and then after I got one due to the chemicals reacting negatively with my body) reasons.

Please tell this is a typo.

Rimi 06-24-2012 07:06 PM


Originally Posted by adthomas (Post 1981122)
Please tell this is a typo.

Lol yeah that's crazy! NaeShelle I'm surprised your hair didn't fall off after having a relaxer on it for 5 hours!

Inimitable 06-25-2012 07:07 AM

I went natural for many different reasons. My hair was constantly breaking and I knew it would grow longer than it was. When I was a kid, I had long thick hair. After the relaxers, I have thin short to medium length hair. I wanted my wraps to be full and bouncy; I was able to get the bouncy look, but not the full look with a relaxer. Then it seemed like my hair broke off as much as it was growing and I never was able to hold onto any length. Then I had my daughter. I knew I was not going to relaxer her hair, EVER! Then I thought how I can convince her that her hair is beautiful and lovely etc... when my own hair was relaxed. I transitioned for a few months only because I couldn’t get to the salon soon enough. Then, I big chopped and haven’t looked back since. Besides, straight hair is a bit boring to me. I like standing out in the crowd.

NaeShelle 06-28-2012 10:53 AM


Originally Posted by adthomas (Post 1981122)
Please tell this is a typo.

I'm the only person in the house (in my "direct" family, including first cousins and all) that has my thick hair type. They didn't know what to do with it, so, they slapped a relaxer on it and had me sit with it for however long they thought it would take to actually make it lay down.

Which it never did, though, it only got that "bad" when I got older. When I turned about seven or eight is when I had to sit with it on for more than an hour or two. When I was younger, and started getting my relaxers at two, it was thirty minutes to an hour and a half.

But, hindsight is 20/20.

RoadDamon35 07-11-2012 05:50 AM

I have been getting my hair relaxed since I was 5 years old. My mom would do all my relaxers. One day I told my mother If something ever happens to you I will go natural. Because I would trust no one with my hair but her. Well on May 14th my mother died. And the last perm she gave me was April 2. This is when my natural journey began.

Ironically enough my 12 year old daughter is natural. I was so about to put a perm in her hair. All my creme crack sisters were encouraging me to. But I resisted. Now I'm happy I didn't. We can be on this journey together. Finding out the truth about our hair. Learning and exploring our hair.

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